I can’t believe it’s May already…time is just flying by. We’re in the midst of spring in the Pacific Northwest and I’m thinking about the warm months to come. Here we are into the 5th month of the year already. Timing is everything. Time changes every time we blink. Blink too often and time is changed for good.
Time passes whether we’re working on our dream or dreaming our days away in a place where we never make a difference and we’re never appreciated. Time is too short. We never have enough time to do the things we want unless we clear away our time to do the things we want. These are the things I’ve heard since I was parted from my job in March.
Some have talked about how a job loss is like a death, and it can be devastating to a family. My husband asked me last week about what May have changed in my health since I am not in a job that caused me immense stress. Here are some changes that occurred within this month. My hair stopped falling out, it got to the point where I was losing clumps of hair in the shower. Yes, stress does that to me. I rarely lose a strand now. I am so much more relaxed now. I’m not stress eating anymore, and I’m able to sleep a full night instead of waking up at 2 with that feeling like I’m really the failure my boss kept telling me I was.
That kind of stress has the potential to not only kill someone’s spirit but also their very cells. Every morning I felt myself dying a little bit more every time I turned on my work computer. I no longer had the motivation to talk to anyone about the products we offered or the benefits we had. I just couldn’t see my way out of this hole….But God had a plan for me and prepared the way out for me that was both liberating and life giving.
What do I do with my time now? I am a specialized tutor for K20 students who need extra help. Students who have Individualized Education Plans who need help in core subjects and life skills. This is my niche and really has always been my niche. I built this mini business without a website, without business cards, without a brand logo. My services speak for themselves, and word-of-mouth is the cheapest form of advertising. My dad always said, “Do a good job in any business and you’ll never be without.”
When is the time to start something new? NOW. It goes along with YES. If you’re asked to do something and say yes to it, do it Now. Don’t wait. Time is always fleeting. Don’t wait till tomorrow, tomorrow will have its own challenges and triumphs waiting to be fulfilled. We’ll never get another chance like today. It’s May 2018. Lets make it the best May of our lives. Let’s make the most of the time we have this month so we won’t be asking “Where did the time go?” when June hits.
10 TIPS TO MEANINGFUL DAYS
- Choose the right attitude According to renowned author John C. Maxwell, we should “choose and display the right attitude”. Our attitude is a choice we make every minute of every day; it’s what we bring with us into every situation we have. Look at it this way “Your attitude is like the aroma of your heart. If your attitude stinks, what’s in your heart?” (Facing the Giants)
- Eat Healthy When we take in the proper nutrients through our food our minds work better, we think more clearly, and are not apt to make rash judgments. That jelly filled donut and coffee you have every day on the way to work only spikes your blood pressure and shoots your insulin levels up. It does not wake you up but gives you that mid-morning crash.
- Make time for the family When my children were in school I worked for a company that had flex time, which means I was able to make my own hours as long as I was at the office for at least 5 hours during business hours. This gave me the opportunity to start my day at 5:00 am which means I was home before my kids got home from school. I was able to make every track meet, basketball game, band concert and mid-afternoon school parties. You have our whole life to work; your children are only with you for 18-20 short years make them count. For those without children, spend time with your nephews and nieces, call your parents weekly, connect with your siblings.
- Acknowledge someone for going above and beyond Our society has become a society that gives out awards for waking up in the morning. We have lost that work ethic that was once present all around us. No more can our teachers fail a student for not doing his or her homework now it’s okay just to show up “you get an A; you made it here!” It’s been said that 80% of the work is done by 20% of the people. I don’t agree with that; now it’s like 1% of the people do the work and 99% of the people want to reap the rewards. Acknowledge those people that actually do the work, they deserve it.
- Learn something today In Leo Buscaglia’s book Papa My Father, Leo talks about his father who even though had a limited education instilled an evening ritual for his family. Before dinner everyone had to share something they learned new that day. Before you sit down for your evening meal or if you eat lunch with your co-workers ask each other “what did you learn new today?”You might be surprised at the outcome.
- Be on time Most people don’t understand when you arrive late to an appointment not only do you show disrespect for the other person you’re meeting, you show an “I don’t care attitude”. Legendary coach Vince Lombardi would tell his players if you’re here on time you’re already late. Lombardi Time states “Show up for every important business meeting 15 minutes ahead of the scheduled meeting time.” The idea is to use the 15 minutes to catch your breath, collect your thoughts and plan what you want to accomplish in the meeting and how you’ll go about it.
- Be a “YES” person We have been programmed from a baby to say “NO”. “Do you want to buy” are words that make all of us cringe. Usually when someone asks us a question, our minds are ready to say the word “NO” before the person finishes the question. Say “YES” to listening to the whole proposal before making up your mind. If you close your mind too early you won’t hear the possibilities.
- “Don’t sweat the small stuff”The first chapter in Richard Carlson, PH.D. book by the same title. He states “Often we allow ourselves to get all worked up about things that, upon closer examination, aren’t really that big a deal.” You know that person that just cut you off on the way to work, you don’t have to chase them down and get back even with them. Let them go, don’t make their problems yours. When we allow all the small stuff to build up we find we have bigger problems.
- Don’t worry about things you can’t control You get an email early in the morning from your boss secretary “the Boss wants to meet with you at 3:00 this afternoon”. You start to panic, what did I do, are there going to be cutback, am I going to get fired, what do I tell my wife and kids. Our minds play through many scenarios, in fact your boss only want to congratulate you on a job well done on the last project. We worry about everything. Worry makes you physical sick. Really it’s exhausting. Let go like water off a ducks back, you’ll be better for it!
- Be chivalrous When was the last time you did something “just because”. Hold the door open for a stranger, allow them to step in line ahead of you because they only had 3 ideas and you had a cart full. We live in a “ME” society, me first the hell with the rest of you. My wife and I raised 4 sons as Modern-day Knights, thinking of the well being of other people first. That person you just held the door open for was having the worst day of his or her life and you just made it better. An act of chivalry only costs time, but the reward lasts forever.
I want to thank my husband, Joe Jacoby for writing this blog post, it means so much to me to have his love and support each and every day we are together. His support and guidance helps me make each of my days count.