DID YOU JUMP ON THE JUDGING BANDWAGON?

Yesterday I posted this photo to my Facebook page and was blasted for being different. I was told that I wasn’t being obedient. I was basically told that I didn’t fit the part of someone who is associated with a certain church group. I’ve thought about this for 24 hours and have come to understand how quickly we all jump on the judging bandwagon, and feel the need to set people straight.

Color and Cut

We find so many reasons to judge people. Tattoos, Piercings, body shape, skin color, speech, education, money, religious affiliations, health issues, the list goes on and on and on and on and on and on. We are so quick to judge people on this criteria yet we don’t know what’s in their hearts. We don’t know the inner workings on their mind. We just feel the need to judge others because they are not like us, and they don’t think like us.

Yes, we need to judge ourselves, every word that comes out of our mouths, every word we type on social media. We need to discern how these words will be taken by others. We need to ensure that we took the huge log out of our own eye before we scrutinize the specks in other people’s eyes.

We need to embrace our differences while we come together in one body. We each have unique talents and skills that contribute to the whole body. But because we judge by the outward appearance we never get to experience what we can learn and share through each other.

Just remember that we are all different and that’s a good thing.

 

 

 

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IN THE MIDST OF THE JOURNEY

In listening to the memorial message of a good friend this last weekend. I’ve learned what the “Big Picture” is in my life. A big thank you goes to my friend Nina for sharing her words of wisdom about looking at the Big Picture in all that has occurred in her life. While I was listening to Nina’s loving words about her husband, I began to cry because I finally understood what the “Big Picture” meant for me. In the midst of the journey called life, it is focusing on the big picture that makes the seasons and changes in life all worth it.

It’s been 5 years since my husband and I made our way across our continent to settle in the most picturesque place we’ve been. It’s been 5 years since we left what we knew, what we loved, and what we missed to embark on a journey that has helped us grow farther than what we ever thought possible., Leaving family behind was one of the most difficult actions I’ve ever had to do. It was heart wrenching to know that my babies, even though they’re grown and on their own, would not be within driving distance away when either of us needed something. As a mother it was extremely difficult not to be a constant part of family’s life. As my children were spreading their wings and flying, I wan’t able to take part in it, but I knew they each had a firm foundation. And that foundation would help them to follow their dreams the way my husband and I had taught them.

HOPE

Sometimes as we’re sitting back and reminiscing about how life changed so rapidly, we are overtaken by the fact that God’s hand was in this. We didn’t know why at the time, but we felt comfortable knowing that God was working it all out for us. He is part of the big picture for us. Yes, 8 months after moving here, my husband lost his job. Everyone from his family told us to move back home. So we could be taken care of physically. After some thought, my husband and I decided that God moved us out here for a reason and we were going to follow through with staying out here to find out why.

Was it difficult? In a word, YES!

But we knew that God was working something out for us, we may not have known it then but we sure do now.

How does all of this pertain to wellness?

By staying the course and putting God first in our life, our marriage became stronger, and we’ve been able to make peace with the past; accepting fault where we needed to and apologizing for things we did wrong. Accepting fault, apologizing for wrong doings, showing emotions when needed are all a sign of strength not weakness. Our wellness began to flourish when all of this was brought to the surface, instead of hiding inside of us. There is more to big picture thinking than meets the eye.

By staying the course we both come to realize our passions, which we would not have known in our status quo life before. It’s interesting that we were able to teach our children to follow their passions and dreams but weren’t able to follow our own because we let the words of other people talk us out of them. Here is the crux of our big picture. By living out your dreams, you are living with the talents that you’ve been given. If you let the words of the people around you ¬†(family, friends, coworkers), destroy your God-given talents you’re giving them permission to be in charge of your life and that’s not living.

In the midst of the journey, we became who God wanted us to be and where God wanted us to be.

“God first, Family second, Career third” ~Mary Kay Ash

WINDOWS OF OPPORTUNITY

Have you ever tried opening a window that would no budge no matter how hard you tried to open it. I did that this morning as I was trying to open my kitchen window. I tugged, I pulled, and it’s still not open. Not to mention that I had to climb up on the ledge behind my sink to do it. I was not so much afraid of falling into the sink as I was afraid of my robing opening up for the world to see. So I climbed down, got dressed and forgot about the window. I sat in the kitchen drinking my coffee and realizing that the window represented my life. I am always trying to open windows of opportunity that are not ready to be opened to me and that I’m not ready for them either.

Instead of getting dressed early this morning, I stayed in my robe. I wasn’t ready for the day, and from past experience I should know better than to attempt something when I wasn’t ready for it. Each time I try something that I’m not ready for, it turns out badly. My life is like that too. I’m always willing to jump into something new, always ready to take that new risk but never really ready for what might happen in the mean time. Not at all ready for the consequences that will prevail from my simple decisions.

Sometimes my windows of opportunity open easily, with the slightest movement they open wide and I get to experience what is waiting for me through the window. But why is it that I always want to open the windows that won’t budge? What makes me think that just by my strength alone I can make all the windows open? Besides I can only jump through one window at a time. I guess I need to pick and choose which window to open and when to open it.

Which window will open?

Which window will open?

I also need to be ready for the window to be open, not dressed in a robe, or not prepared mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, or physically. So how should I go about being in the state of preparedness all the time so I can open my windows of opportunity?

First, I pray about what windows God is going to help me unlock and open up so that I can have a breath of fresh air and so I can learn what I need to learn so I may help others and to get to the next level in my relationship with Him.

Second I keep a list of all my talents and skills and each day I glance through it remembering how I learned how to use them for good. Then I try to pinpoint one skill each day that I need to work on that will help me to help other people better.

Third I put myself out in the public. You can’t help people when you’re not around them. You can’t connect with people if you lead a secluded life. Most of the time opening windows of opportunity requires a group effort. You can’t do it on your own, no matter how you try. You need someone to lean on, who will help you see how and where you need to change in order to grow.

Be prepared because you never know when your window of opportunity will open and you’ll be given the chance to see your life differently. You’ll be able to grow beyond what you thought you ever could. Your talents and skills will be put to the test but the outcome is so well worth it.

Be ready for window opening opportunity that can change your life.