I’ve started reminding myself about all the good things in life instead of focusing on the negative. It’s so easy to focus on the bad stuff and sometimes difficult to look for the good. But an interesting thing happens to your whole being when you only focus on the positive, it brings light to your life. It’s like there’s a switch that turns on the light and by only looking for the positive things you only see the good. The Power of Positivity has propelled me into a different way of life, and has helped me in dealing with problems in life.

Norman Vincent Peale

Yesterday I talked about how being positive will actually help you lose weight. When you have a positive outlook on life, you’ll be more apt to stick to your diet and fitness plan.  It’s a proven fact that positive people are healthier and more successful than those that walk around clinging to their dark cloud of despair.

Positive people are also more attractive. When I was a teenager I was constantly compared with my aunt Mary, one of my great-aunts used to tell me that I looked just like her. What she meant as a compliment I took as an insult because as an adult my aunt Mary looked like the Wicked Witch of East from Wizard of Oz. But then my great-aunt showed me photos of my aunt Mary when she was teenager, and she was beautiful and, WOW, I did look like her. “So how did she get so ugly?” I asked. My great-aunt told me that as a teenager Mary wasn’t filled hate. She was bubbly and kind, and loved to be with people. It was after she had gotten married that she started to hate her own brothers, and that hate turned her ugly.

As I remember this it is true, that Mary hated her brothers, my father was one of them. She hated many people and it caused her much agony. Hatred is on the opposite end of positivity. This hatred literally ate her beauty and her health from her heart, to her organs, and to her skin.

It easy to fall into that trap of walking around while hanging on to that cloud of despair that you think is the only way to live. That cloud is what’s holding you back from your own life. If your life is not where you thought it would be, and you’ve checked everything outside yourself. Then maybe it’s your outlook on life that is keeping you from where you want to be.

  • Surround yourself with positive people because their positivity is contagious and will rub off on you…if you let it. 
  • When I find myself falling into those old traps of negative thoughts and feelings, I always turn on Zig Ziglar. His positive messages always pull me up and forward, faster than any amount of chocolate chip ice cream ever could. 
  • I started keeping a positive journal. It’s filled with articles, poems, quotes, bible verses, and my positive happy thoughts I have during the day. Sometimes If I can’t write I just record my happy thought on my phone. Why? Because just like everyone else, we all have down days but these positive, uplifting tidbits from my own life help me to get back on track.

Unleash the power of positivity on your own life and see your life change right before your eyes.







Today was the day I said I would tackle the refrigerator. I wanted to get rid of all the old food, and what once was food but has turned into a chemistry project. Sometimes I have to smell the offending food to know whether it’s gone bad, at other times I just know by the mold I see. I started thinking about how cleaning our refrigerators is in direct relation to cleaning our lives.


We fill the refrigerator with good wholesome food, in my case it’s all organic. Because of a lack of time we don’t  clean out that food which has gone bad. When we look at cleaning out our lives we look at ways to fill it with all the good things that life has to offer,  filling our minds with good, positive, and Godly thoughts, finding new uplifting friends.  But we neglect getting rid of those parts of life that are decaying and causing us to stumble, those negative thoughts and moldy toxic people who have become permanent fixtures in our lives.

The problem with this is that we cannot grow if we cannot let go. We’ve all heard of clean diets, living a clean and sober life, but we don’t talk about how to get from one point to the next. In order to follow a clean diet we need to get rid of all the processed foods, and only choose organic, whole foods. Cleaning our lives is the same way. We can’t expect our lives to move forward if we’re stuck in the same negative thought patterns with the same moldy toxic people that suck the life out of us.

So how do we get unstuck and clean our lives so we can move forward?

  • Limit your time and energy spent with these moldy toxic people in your life. You may have to rethink your friendships with them in real time and on social media. Only you know who these  people are in your own life. You can go to them and ask them to stop acting a certain way, if they refuse to, then just limit the amount of time you spend with them. If it’s your spouse or significant other, and you love them, pray for them and look for the good in them, focus on the good whenever you are with them. 
  • Whenever a negative thought comes into your mind, push it out by reciting a positive quote. You may want to keep a list of positive quotes with you at all times.
  • Stop putting yourself in situations where these moldy thoughts and moldy people are in control of you. That means that you may have to say “NO” to them. It’s difficult but your own sanity is at stake.
  • Surround yourself with people who are uplifting, positive, and loving. People who make you want to be a better person. These are the people who will help you when you need help, and not try to control you or your life.
  • Watch your own words because they will either hold you back or stop you in your tracks. Cleaning our lives means we use clean words all the time. Words that uplift, forgive, help, motivate, inspire, and love. Use these words when you speak to other people and when you talk to yourself.

This is only the beginning to cleaning our lives. It’s not a one time event, just live cleaning out our refrigerators isn’t a one time event. It takes time, patience, and love to continually clean our lives. It also take perseverance, and strength.

Cleaning our lives is the only way to move forward in a world bent on standing still.


How often have we been told in order to change our own life and our own outlook on life we need to make a difference in someone else’s life. I think we need to make a difference in our own lives first. Lately I’ve been thinking about how it is easier for me to make a difference in other people’s lives than it is for me to make a difference in my own life. How many of you experience this same thing? When we make a difference in our own life, our life becomes what we want it to be, and we are better able to make a difference in other people’s lives.

Make a difference

In order for me to make a difference in my own life I needed to change my mindset about what makes me happy, how I need to really be sick and tired of how my life is, how I need to be totally uncomfortable about sitting on the edge of my life instead of participating in my life. These are just some of the things I’ve been thinking about lately, and how I need to make a difference in my own life.

Ways that have been helping me make a difference in my own life.

  • I made a date with myself everyday to read or listen to an inspirational message. I have many favorites but here are two of my favorites: I read my bible every day, and I listen to Chip Ingram at least twice a week (
  • Sometimes when I’m reading or listening to these messages I sit on my exercise cycle or go for a walk. I’ve noticed for myself that when my body is moving I absorb the information better than if I just sit and read or listen. 
  • Make it a point to do something encouraging in your own life. Put up inspirational quotations around your home. I tape some to my bathroom mirror, my refrigerator, the mirror in my kitchen (yes I have a mirror next to my refrigerator) If you don’t want to tape paper up around your house, put them into frames like this one: 
One of my favorite quotes

One of my favorite quotes

  • To make a difference in my own life I needed to surround myself with people who are encouraging, supportive, loving, kind. Not all the people in our lives are here to encourage us; some are here to teach us how not to be. There will always be people in our lives who are ready whip us around with their tongues, but we don’t have to listen to them or be around them. You’ll make a difference in your life if you distance yourself from these kinds of people. 
  • What we think about we bring about. So to make a difference in my own life. I changed how I think. I don’t use swear words. I think about the good things in life and even though I am still going through some difficult things, like many people are, I am not dwelling the negative of what’s going on, but I’m looking at the good in all this. And in looking for the good, I’ve opened myself up for the best possibilities that life can offer.
  • Think about what and how you eat. If you’re trying to make a difference in your life to be more positive, by more inspiring, then you have to eat better food. Clean, organic food is the only way to supply your brain and body with the nutrients they need to accomplish our daily challenges. Plus it helps us to think better, and when we think better we’re capable of making better choices.

 Touching lives is what life is all about.

Making a difference is choice that first starts with you!