I can’t believe it’s May already…time is just flying by. We’re in the midst of spring in the Pacific Northwest and I’m thinking about the warm months to come. Here we are into the 5th month of the year already. Timing is everything. Time changes every time we blink. Blink too often and time is changed for good.
Time passes whether we’re working on our dream or dreaming our days away in a place where we never make a difference and we’re never appreciated. Time is too short. We never have enough time to do the things we want unless we clear away our time to do the things we want. These are the things I’ve heard since I was parted from my job in March.
Some have talked about how a job loss is like a death, and it can be devastating to a family. My husband asked me last week about what May have changed in my health since I am not in a job that caused me immense stress. Here are some changes that occurred within this month. My hair stopped falling out, it got to the point where I was losing clumps of hair in the shower. Yes, stress does that to me. I rarely lose a strand now. I am so much more relaxed now. I’m not stress eating anymore, and I’m able to sleep a full night instead of waking up at 2 with that feeling like I’m really the failure my boss kept telling me I was.
That kind of stress has the potential to not only kill someone’s spirit but also their very cells. Every morning I felt myself dying a little bit more every time I turned on my work computer. I no longer had the motivation to talk to anyone about the products we offered or the benefits we had. I just couldn’t see my way out of this hole….But God had a plan for me and prepared the way out for me that was both liberating and life giving.
What do I do with my time now? I am a specialized tutor for K20 students who need extra help. Students who have Individualized Education Plans who need help in core subjects and life skills. This is my niche and really has always been my niche. I built this mini business without a website, without business cards, without a brand logo. My services speak for themselves, and word-of-mouth is the cheapest form of advertising. My dad always said, “Do a good job in any business and you’ll never be without.”
When is the time to start something new? NOW. It goes along with YES. If you’re asked to do something and say yes to it, do it Now. Don’t wait. Time is always fleeting. Don’t wait till tomorrow, tomorrow will have its own challenges and triumphs waiting to be fulfilled. We’ll never get another chance like today. It’s May 2018. Lets make it the best May of our lives. Let’s make the most of the time we have this month so we won’t be asking “Where did the time go?” when June hits.
Food & Poetry go together like peanut butter and jelly and chocolate and coconut. As I was looking for simple poems to share with my tutoring students, I ran across this poem by Shel Silverstein that made me laugh. But more importantly it helped me to understand how easy it is to become so engrossed in the new do’s and don’t’s about eating food that we lose sight that food is not supposed to give us total pleasure. Food is not supposed to be our main focus in life, but for so many people food has become their god. They run to food instead of running to God to fill the emptiness inside. They think about and worship food with wild abandon. Food wasn’t meant to fill our every need. Food was meant to nourish every cell in our bodies. It wasn’t meant to fill our hearts with love.
by Shel Silverstein
I was settin’ at this restaurant
When the waiter came up and said, “What do you want?”
I looked at the menu – it looked so nice
Till he said, “Let me give you a little advice.”
He said, “Spaghetti and potatoes got too much starch,
Pork chops and sausage are bad for your heart.
There’s hormones in chicken and beef and veal,
Bowl of ravioli is a dead man’s meal.
Bread’s got preservatives, there’s nitrites in ham,
Artificial coloring in jellies and jam.
Stay away from doughnuts, run away from pie,
Pepperoni pizza is a sure way to die.
Sugar’s gonna rot your teeth and make you put on weight,
Artificial sweetener’s got cyclamates.
Eggs are high in cholesterol, too much fat in cheese,
Coffee ruins your kidneys and so do teas.
Fish got too much mercury, red meat is poison,
Salt’s gonna send your blood pressure risin’.
Hot dogs and bologna got deadly red dyes,
Vegetables and fruits are sprayed with pesticides.”
So I said, “What can I eat that’s gonna make me last?”
He said, “A small drink of water in a sterilized glass.”
And then he stopped and he thought for a minute,
And said, “Never mind the water – there’s carcinogens in it.”
So I got up from the table and walked out in the street,
Realizin’ there was absolutely nothing I could eat.
So I haven’t eaten for a month and I don’t feel too fine,
But I know that I’ll be healthy for a long, long time.
If you find yourself stressing over food and what you should eat, this poem puts everything into perspective. If you are like the millions of people on this planet who can’t get from breakfast to lunch without stressing over what you ate or what you didn’t eat, take a break. Read some poetry. Laugh. Get everything in perspective. Try not to think about food every minute of the day. Get away from food. Instead of meeting your friends for coffee and snacks, meet them on a walking trail. If you’re choosing healthy Non-GMO food, relax relish in the fact that you are nourishing your cells and your body. The less we stress over our food the better our bodies can digest it.
In a perfect world…our food supply would all be organic and natural. In a perfect world…no reason would exist to remember all the horrific tragedies that have occurred. In a perfect world …stress would be non-existent. That perfect world hasn’t arrived yet…but it will soon! So we trudge through the minefield of our food supply, we deal with tragedies, and we put up with the stress only to make it through to tomorrow. We live in a stress filled world, but how we handle all that stress says much about the character we’ve built.
While I’ve been detoxing, I’ve had my fair share of stress that I’ve had to deal with. Some of the stress weighs heavily on my mind and heart. But I know that it will all work out in the end. Going through a detox has it’s own stress associated with it. Having to deal with the healing crisis my body is going through is stressful enough but when you pile on deadlines, tests, and just the normal stress of living in this anxiety filled world the process is as fun as getting your teeth pulled.
This whole situation reminded me of a book I had to read for one of my college classes on stress. “Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers”by Robert Sapolsky. In going through the book and my assignments for my Stress class I found an assignment that really helped me and is continuing to help me today get through the stress that I’m experiencing both from the detox and from life itself.
The assignment had six sections that all deal with how I can be an eraser of my own stress. Today I am only focusing on one tip in one section that still stands out in my life, even as I write this. In this assignment that I did three years ago, I wrote down how I love to color in a children’s coloring book, and how peaceful it made me feel because it took me back to simpler times. So yesterday I bought a new box of crayons (who doesn’t love that smell of a new box of crayons) and a coloring book and I colored a picture. While coloring I was remember how I used to color with my grandfather, and how I used to get so mad at him for coloring each leg of a horse a different color. I know he did this on purpose to teach me a really big life lesson, but when you’re eight you just know there’s no such things as rainbow horses. I also remembered how I used to come home from school as a teenager and if I had a bad day at school I would go in my bedroom and take out my secret stash of coloring books and crayons that I hid under my bed and color away my stress. Then after an hour of coloring I was calm and could talk about the feelings I had inside about what happened that day.
The simple act of coloring helps me remember happy times, times of abundance, times of simplicity when it didn’t matter how much money you had, or how many trinkets you accumulated. What mattered was that you were connecting with the people in your life, and making happy memories. Why not grab a coloring book and a new box of crayons, sit on the floor for 15 minutes and color away your stress. Remember the good times you had.
Color your stress away!
What is the most important aspect of going through a detox or cleanse? You might think it’s eliminating the toxins, or replenishing your body with good, nutritious food and clean, distilled water. While those two things are equally important I feel the most important aspect of cleansing the body is sleep. When we sleep our cells get a chance to rejuvenate and we are better able to handle the stresses of life. That is another aspect of cleansing that I will discuss tomorrow: Stress. But for right now sleep and rest is the best way to get through a detox with my mind intact.
Our bodies need sleep just as much as they need water. But the right amount of sleep is different for each person based on their nutritional needs. For me the right amount is a good 7 hours. 7 hours helps my body remain in the holding pattern of homeostasis or balance, and while I’m detoxing these 7 hours are more important than ever before. One reason is that my body is dumping many toxins out and while I’m eliminating the toxins my body needs every chance it can to get back to a holding pattern where it can regroup and be stronger than it was yesterday.
Interesting facts about our health when we sleep.
Here’s what sleep can do for you even when you’re not detoxing.
- It keeps your heart healthy by lowering your blood pressure.
- It may prevent cancer. (detect, repair & replace, this is how our cells prevent disease)
- It reduces stress. (Yes I know that sometimes it’s the stress that prevents you from sleeping).
- Sleep reduces inflammation, but only if you sleep in the prone position. (sleeping in a chair does the exact opposite.)
- Sleep makes you more alert. (You’ll do better on tests if you have a good night’s rest instead of cramming all night.)
- Sleep makes your memory better. (You’ll remember the facts for that test and you’ll also remember where you put your car keys at.)
- Sleep also helps with weight loss (Because when you sleep you don’t crave carbs as much.)
- Sleep is also associated with reduced risk of depression.
- Every cell in your body repairs when you sleep.
- Sleep helps you look youthful longer.
Yesterday I reflected on what I learned about myself and about the world around me. Today I’m focusing on looking ahead. While reflecting is always good to do on from time-to-time, it is important to take what we lean and move forward. Looking ahead and dreaming of areas where we can use this important new and not so new knowledge.
I hope you join me in March as I will be writing a tip a day on how to save money. Financial problems are the number one cause of stress in our world. In order to take charge of your health, you’ve got to be willing to take charge of your finances. I’m calling this challenge March Into Money. It will be a challenge both for myself and for anyone who wants to participate. Some of these tips are easy and some may be quite difficult, but if you want to save money, these tips will help you.
My favorite quotation about money!
The Challenge begins!
Who’s in this with me?
Your health will thank you!
Had a stressful day…had to kill a brown recluse spider which was making a web on door jamb of my front door…(I DETEST spiders). Had an interview too. Stress causes weight gain, I am well aware of that. So after the spider incident, I went for a walk in the beautiful sunshine. The interview went well but as usual I won’t find out for a couple of days. I hate the not knowing part. Another interesting part of the day came when my husband treated me to dinner out. I thought to myself all the things I could order at my favorite Mexican restaurant, Moctezuma’s. I actually stunned myself because I ate none of the chips, drank only water, and ordered a nice Avocado Caesar Salad with a grilled chicken breast and dressing on the side. It was wonderful, I felt satisfied. Plus normally when dessert is mentioned, I am all over it. I wasn’t last night. Dessert was not even on my mind.
Must grocery shop today, this will be a challenge all in itself, because in order to hit the healthy areas of the store, I first have to walk through the bakery section. I will have to focus a little deeper and not go there hungry. I already have a list, that won’t be a problem. But since I am loving this new feeling of being lighter, I will have to remind myself that I’ve tasted all the sugar before and nothing tastes as good as healthy feels.
A couple of days ago I was watching a PBS presentation by Brenda Watson Heart of Perfect Health I learned a new formula for calculating how many teaspoons of sugar are in a serving of food. Because let’s face it, it’s easier to visualize what a teaspoon of sugar looks like than a gram of it. Total carb grams (-) total fiber grams (/) divided by 5.
It’s simple. Now I’ve been calculating how many teaspoons of sugar are in each of the food items I have on my pantry shelves that have a label on them. I rarely buy anything that comes in a can, jar, or box, preferring to make it myself. So I am also checking recipes to find out exactly how many teaspoons of sugar each contain and trying to find ways to lower those teaspoons to only 1 or 2.
Focus on 5
Sometimes I get too stressed out with the whole goal writing thing, whether I’m trying to lose weight, create more sales, or even clean my house. So I devised a plan to help myself get everything done that I need to do. This plan is simple; it includes five things that I do everyday. After I accomplish the first five things I add five more.
Losing Weight: Focusing on losing 5 pounds puts less stress on my brain than focusing on my ultimate goal of weighing the same as I did after I had my twins almost 27 years ago. (5 minutes of visualization, 5 glasses of water, 5 different exercises, 5 deep cleansing breaths, 5 veggies and fruits daily, etc.)
Creating More Sales: Focusing on 5 different things to do each day is much easier than focusing on the goal of making 20 different contacts in a day. (5 sales calls, 5 emails, 5 Facebook updates, 5 Tweets, 5 live people interactions, etc.)
House Cleaning: Picking up 5 things as I walk from my office to the other parts of my home helps clean the entire house. (Folding blankets, picking up shoes, backpacks, DVDs, crafts, etc.)
Focus on 5 has really helped me to eliminate the stress I created myself from letting things go till the last minute, biting off more than I can chew, and in remembering everything I have to do in a day. If you are having the same issues as I have had try Focusing on 5.