On my walk this morning I came to the conclusion that without understanding of why something happens in our lives we continue to let it keep happening. People are always asking that ill fated question, “WHY?”  “Why did this bad thing happen to me?” “Why did I get this disease?” “Why did my spouse leave me?”  And we are always given  the answer in yet another question, “WHY NOT?” The answers to these questions helps in understanding the vision we have for our entire life.

While many times we are told not to even think about the question of “Why?” something has happened or is happening in our lives. Because people think that we will have to endure even more bad things happening to us. Don’t you find it interesting that we only question when bad things are going on and not the good? When we’re going through the good times we never stop to think about why they’re happening we’re just enjoying the moment.

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Understanding the vision in our life means that we need to understand the why’s and the why not’s  of the things that happen to us; this means that we need to ask ourselves some difficult attachment questions. It’s no secret that in order to lose weight and get healthy we need to ask ourselves questions about our motives in why we do the deeds that are detrimental to both our figure and our health. For me, it looks like this: What in my past has me connected to eating chocolate first thing in the morning? This goes all the way back to my grandfather. I am longing for those simpler times when I was cared for by my Dzadza (Polish for grandfather). I feel the need to continue in his legacy even though I know it’t not healthy. But in my case I’ve changed the way I have my chocolate in the morning and have a chocolate protein shake instead.

This was an easy vision to understand. I have a vision of looking and feeling a certain way so I needed to understand why I am constantly craving something that is tied me to my past. How many of us do this every day but don’t understand why we’re doing it? Now let’s dig a little deeper. I’m not a fan of setting goals, many people aren’t, but they’re also going nowhere, either. Goals help us achieve that which is worthwhile. So what’s my obsession about these little things called goals? While I’ve set goals in the past, some I accomplished and some I haven’t, in my mind I always focused on the unaccomplished goals instead of my successes. WHY? Because I sometimes I let the negative words of my mother overrun my mind instead of those positive words of my father. I accomplished many things in my life by having goals but those negative words are sometimes so difficult to silence.

I was sitting in a business training session a couple of months ago with other associates and we were going around the circle  stating our goals about where we want our business to be. When it was my turn, I stood up and said “I try not to make goals because when I do and I don’t accomplish them I am extremely depressed.” I shot myself in the foot that day. Because the only thing I’ve accomplished is nothing!

I now understand that I need to have a vision of where I want to go and I need to understand that vision. Understanding the vision for my life means that I need to write down my goals, read over my goals, give a vision to my goals. I need to map out where I want to go not just with the business but with my physical, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, environmental, and social health. Sometimes I think in pictures and sometimes I think in words. So I’ve decided to bring my vision to life with photos that I’ve started collecting, quotes about the life I want to have. I’ve printed them all out and they sit on the wall above my computer in my office. The quotes are on my bathroom mirror, my refrigerator, and my front door. 

You see if I surround myself with my vision, I’ll understand my vision, and I’ll become my vision.

Instead of letting life happen to you, bring your vision to life.

Understand it.

Taste it.

Feel it.

Become the vision.


What we think about we bring about. Words can either tear down or build up whether we’re speaking them out loud to other people or to ourselves. Whatever happened to “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all?” Just like a good diet shapes your health, words shape your mind. If we use the right words our minds and our world will change accordingly.

Many times throughout my day I find myself either repeating quotes or singing the words of inspirational music. I quote the people who have left a positive stamp on my heart. For me most of those words come from my father, “Watch out world, she can do anything she puts her mind to!” “You have a wonderful heart, you need to let the world see that!” “Stand in the gap, Laura, it’s where people need you the most but are too afraid to ask!” Then I have my favorite motivators: God, Zig Ziglar, Mark Twain, Corrie Ten Boom, Max Lucado, Les Brown, Norman Vincent Peale, Dale Carnegie, John C. Maxwell, Joyce Meyers, Vince Lombardi, and Eleanor Roosevelt just to name a few.

Here are some of my favorite quotes that I repeat almost daily that have helped me shape my mind.

Feast on a good diet of these quotes and many others like them .

Let their words shape your mind!

Zig Ziglar


Corrie Ten Boom


Dale Carnegie


Eleanor Roosevelt


Favorite Scripture

One of my favorite scriptures!


John C Maxwell


Joyce Meyers


Mark Twain

This is above my computer to remind me of my father.


Les Brown


Max Lucado

Norman Vincent Peale

Vince Lombardi


How often have we been told in order to change our own life and our own outlook on life we need to make a difference in someone else’s life. I think we need to make a difference in our own lives first. Lately I’ve been thinking about how it is easier for me to make a difference in other people’s lives than it is for me to make a difference in my own life. How many of you experience this same thing? When we make a difference in our own life, our life becomes what we want it to be, and we are better able to make a difference in other people’s lives.

Make a difference

In order for me to make a difference in my own life I needed to change my mindset about what makes me happy, how I need to really be sick and tired of how my life is, how I need to be totally uncomfortable about sitting on the edge of my life instead of participating in my life. These are just some of the things I’ve been thinking about lately, and how I need to make a difference in my own life.

Ways that have been helping me make a difference in my own life.

  • I made a date with myself everyday to read or listen to an inspirational message. I have many favorites but here are two of my favorites: I read my bible every day, and I listen to Chip Ingram at least twice a week (http://livingontheedge.org/broadcasts)
  • Sometimes when I’m reading or listening to these messages I sit on my exercise cycle or go for a walk. I’ve noticed for myself that when my body is moving I absorb the information better than if I just sit and read or listen. 
  • Make it a point to do something encouraging in your own life. Put up inspirational quotations around your home. I tape some to my bathroom mirror, my refrigerator, the mirror in my kitchen (yes I have a mirror next to my refrigerator) If you don’t want to tape paper up around your house, put them into frames like this one: 
One of my favorite quotes

One of my favorite quotes

  • To make a difference in my own life I needed to surround myself with people who are encouraging, supportive, loving, kind. Not all the people in our lives are here to encourage us; some are here to teach us how not to be. There will always be people in our lives who are ready whip us around with their tongues, but we don’t have to listen to them or be around them. You’ll make a difference in your life if you distance yourself from these kinds of people. 
  • What we think about we bring about. So to make a difference in my own life. I changed how I think. I don’t use swear words. I think about the good things in life and even though I am still going through some difficult things, like many people are, I am not dwelling the negative of what’s going on, but I’m looking at the good in all this. And in looking for the good, I’ve opened myself up for the best possibilities that life can offer.
  • Think about what and how you eat. If you’re trying to make a difference in your life to be more positive, by more inspiring, then you have to eat better food. Clean, organic food is the only way to supply your brain and body with the nutrients they need to accomplish our daily challenges. Plus it helps us to think better, and when we think better we’re capable of making better choices.

 Touching lives is what life is all about.

Making a difference is choice that first starts with you!


Last week I started having dreams about commitment to the point I asked myself “How committed am I to changing my life?” People have so many issues with commitment; we see it in marriages, in faith, in worship practices, and in living a healthy life. In order to change your life you have to be committed to the change, to the process, and to your life. Be Committed or Go Home; you’ll accomplish nothing if you aren’t committed.

According to dictionary.com, commitment means pledging a promise to, an obligation, involvement. If we have a sincere commitment to living a new life than we will make the promise to change. We do have an obligation to ourselves to keep that promise. If we’re not involved in our own life, how can we expect others to be?  If we aren’t committed to our own lives then who will be?

My favorite Commitment Quote

My favorite Commitment Quote!

We need to let go of these phrases: “Whatever!” “I don’t care!” “Who cares?” and others like them. In one of my dreams I had last week, I answered everyone’s questions with “I don’t care!” People asked me what I wanted to eat, I said “I don’t care!” In my dream, my husband asked me if he could work on the car in the living room, I said, “I don’t care!” A doctor in my dream asked me if he could give me a shot of all the GMO pesticides known to man, I said “I don’t care!”  The thing is I do care; I care very deeply! I would never let my husband work on the car near my white sofa. I would never let doctors give me shots of anything, let alone the poisons in GMO pesticides.  I never eat anything without questioning what’s in it, or where it came from.

Are we committed to making lasting changes or just temporary fixes? This is a question each of us must ask ourselves. Are we catching ourselves when we say “Whatever”, “I don’t care!”, “Who cares?” and other noncommittal statements?

“There are only two options regarding commitment. You’re either in or out. There’s no such thing as a life in-between.” ~Pat Riley

Day 3

Be Committed to your life!

Be Committed to the process!

Be Committed or Go Home!


We are responsible for our health & wellness, our finances, our family, our career, and our entire life. It isn’t up to other people to make our lives better. We need to take back the responsibility that we given away so freely instead of looking to others to make us whole.

One of my favorite quotes


1. STOP BLAMING OTHER PEOPLE FOR YOUR PROBLEMS: No one is holding a gun to your head and making you eat unhealthy food. No on is making you spend money you don’t have. The only person to blame is yourself. If you really wanted to stop running on the hamster wheel, you would.

2. COUNSEL WITH OTHERS BEFORE MAKING MAJOR DECISIONS: If you’re thinking about a career change talk to people in the field, seek out wise counsel not your peers. Making major life decisions should be thought about at every angle. When we seek wise counsel we get another perspective; maybe something we never thought about.

3. DO YOUR HOMEWORK: If you are planning on moving to a different part of the country, research what the cost of living is there, what are the schools like, the crime rate, the housing market, etc. All these factors should be included instead of just going there because someone says it’s nice.

4. REALIZE THAT WHAT YOU DO EVERY DAY EQUALS YOUR LIFE: If you don’t like something about your life, change it. If you want to lose weight and get healthy, you can’t just sit around and expect the weight loss fairy to zap the weight off of you. Get up and move away from that bag of chips!

5. SET GOALS THAT ARE ATTAINABLE: Setting a goal of losing 10 pounds a week before a big event in your life is unrealistic. But a goal of 10 pounds a month could be attained if you have the eagerness to fulfill it.

6. ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE NOT THE CENTER OF THE WORLD: We are not the center of the universe and if we would all just accept that the earth does not move at our command we would all be more at peace with the responsibilities we can control. We can only control ourselves!

7. LOOK FOR WAYS TO SPEND YOUR TIME HELPING OTHER PEOPLE: People with too much time on their hands will often start feeling sorry for themselves. Self-pity leads to blaming other people. It is a vicious cycle.

8. ADMIT FAULT WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE: Instead of trying to hide our  mistakes, like a child, admit them. When we admit to our mistakes we take responsibility for our lives. It isn’t societies fault that you got heart disease; no one held a gun to your head and made you eat unhealthy food for years or stopped you from exercising.

9. LOOK FOR OTHER WAYS TO STAY POSITIVE: Stop the negativity. When you are negative you are more apt to blame others for your problems, and mistakes.

10. GROW UP: We have to start acting our age again. We can’t act like a teenager when we’re in our 30s. It’s time to grow up and act mature. It is expected that a teenager acts without thinking but a 20-, 30-, 40-, 50-year old, etc should be more mature and act appropriately.

Go out and take back your responsibility back.