Hacking Our Thoughts for Change

Nothing will ever change unless we hack our thoughts first. How many times have you heard these phrases whether they come out of your mouth or someone close to you?

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“Every now and then”

“Here and there”

“I only do this once in a while.”

“A little bit won’t hurt.”

“Who’s it going to hurt?”

“I don’t do this all the time!”

“I can handle it!”

Every time we say things like this they all add up and we’re left with less money and ever expanding waistline. If we say we only buy more lives on an in-game purchase  every now and then, those now and then words add up. How many games do we play on our devices? Now add up how many times we buy lives for each game. We’d be surprised at how much these little games can suck us dry.

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Now let’s apply this to eating. We’re trying to lose weight, we know what we’re supposed to eat that will help us with the journey. But then we’re at work and it’s time for a break, we go down to the cafeteria or out for a snack and we pick up a bar of chocolate vowing all the while that “a little bit won’t hurt.” Guess what? It does hurt, and it doesn’t just hurt for a little while because after we eat that chocolate we’re irritable, we’re tired and we’re even more hungry than before the break.

So how do we hack our thoughts?

We change what we focus on. How does this work? Yesterday, I had to go and pick some x-ray images from the clinic. Since it was such a sunny day, I decided to walk. I knew that I would have to pass by one of my favorite coffee places that also has some of my favorite chocolates. Normally, when I walk to the clinic I always treat myself. Yesterday was different, I focused on something else. I decided to give my spouse a call while I walked there so I could focus on the conversation and not about the coffee house and their chocolates. It worked I didn’t stop and I didn’t miss either the coffee or the chocolates.

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We always need to have a plan and then a backup plan that fits our personalities, the goal we are trying to achieve, and our lifestyle. I choose to walk to places that are within 3 miles of my home. This helps me because I hate to workout and I need exercise.

Three thought hacks to get you started:

  1. Change your routine, when it’s break time tell yourself “It hurts me, I am somebody” every time you look at something you know you shouldn’t eat.
  2. Before you get up in the morning say out loud “God, how can I please you today?” This is a big thought changer.
  3. When you feel yourself inching towards spending money on something you don’t need (more game lives, candy bars, books, etc), ask three questions:

         “Will I die tomorrow if I don’t have it today? A year from now will I still want it? Will it make my life more fulfilling?

These are loaded questions and will help you define your needs from your wants.

Change only comes when we hack our thoughts and bring every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ. (2 Corinthians 10:5 NKJ)

Wishing you Wellness for a New Day!

 

 

IT’S BEEN A LONG TIME COMING

I must admit, I too am part of the group of people who sometimes lets the circumstances of life get to her. Let’s face it we all have days and sometimes weeks where we get down and need to take some time to regroup and regather our thoughts. That’s what this time away has been for me. It’s been a long time coming with what I’ve been dealing with these last few months.

So many times I think we always feel the need to keep going no matter what happens in our lives, that we lose focus of what’s really important to us. We can get up every morning and still have the same feelings of the day before if we don’t deal with them before we go to bed.

Last week I heard a message from John Maxwell and then something similar from Rick Warren about how it doesn’t matter how much you can get done in a day. What matters most is how much have you imitated God in a day. Last week I wrote “Was I an imitator of God today?” and posted it on the wall that I see first thing in the morning and in my bathroom where it is the last thing I see before retiring at night.

Was I am imitator of God today

I don’t find the answers to this question in my list of things to do. I find the answers to this question from my prayers for the people in my life and even my  enemies,the smiles I give to strangers, the helping hand I give to someone in need, the uplifting words I used throughout the day, the forgiveness I give to people who have hurt me (and continue to hurt me), the ability to turn the other cheek when accusations are hurled at me, standing up for the truth of God, the compassion I show, and the love that I show to all people I come into contact with. 

I stopped making a to-do list and started concentrating on this question each day.  When I was in school and had to read a large section of text for assignments I would read through the questions at the end of the sections, because it made me focus more on the answers when they presented themselves. So when I read the question “Was I an imitator of God today?”in the morning, it opens me up to opportunities where I can imitate God with the talents He gave me.

I’m not saying that just reading the question will make things happen, you have to have faith and be willing to put yourself to the side to  learn how to live God’s way of life. You can’t imitate anyone unless you know them. So in order to know God you need to read His Word. Study His Word. Meditate on His Word and Pray.

So while it’s been a long time coming, it has been a time where I regrouped and refocused my thoughts to what’s really important for me.

To quote a famous coach, Vince Lombardi, and the CEO of Yahoo, Marissa Mayer:

“God, family, and everything else; in that order!”

YOUR CHILD’S FUTURE

Every day the food supply gets worse and worse with Monsanto as the culprit for poisoning our food supply and telling the public “It’s okay!” We see it all the time. It isn’t okay. And if you want your children to have a better life than you, you have to get educated on what types of food are good for them and for you. Don’t be fooled by mass media. Thinking that pesticides sprayed on crops by people wearing hazmat suits but yet it won’t harm you. If you just remember one thing about this post, remember this. If your skin absorbs what you put on it and becomes part of your body, then don’t you think what is sprayed on our food will be absorbed through the leaves, stems and fruit to become part of the food? If you won’t put the pesticides on child’s skin or your own skin, then don’t eat food sprayed with pesticides either. The quality of your child’s future life is in your hands.

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Where do you want your child to spend their life?

5 Compelling Questions About Your Children’s Future!

These days parents spend more time picking out new shoes and new clothing than they do in feeding their children. As a parent we mold and shape our children into what we think is best for them. We touch their futures by what we feed them as a child. If  children see their parents eating fresh produce they are more likely to enjoy the produce too. If we don’t want our children to spend their lives in doctor’s offices then we need to make major changes in their diets. Children follow in the foot steps of their parents. If  parents aren’t make conscious decisions about the food they eat, their children won’t either.

  • What kind of tomorrow’s do you want for your children?
  • How many days do you want your children to live?
  • What are your hopes for your children?
  • What example are you setting for them?
  • Do you want your children to be diseased?

The answers to these questions all hinge on what we are feeding them. If we take back the responsibility of being a parent, we can ensure the healthy futures for our children and change the health path for our family.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR VISION

On my walk this morning I came to the conclusion that without understanding of why something happens in our lives we continue to let it keep happening. People are always asking that ill fated question, “WHY?”  “Why did this bad thing happen to me?” “Why did I get this disease?” “Why did my spouse leave me?”  And we are always given  the answer in yet another question, “WHY NOT?” The answers to these questions helps in understanding the vision we have for our entire life.

While many times we are told not to even think about the question of “Why?” something has happened or is happening in our lives. Because people think that we will have to endure even more bad things happening to us. Don’t you find it interesting that we only question when bad things are going on and not the good? When we’re going through the good times we never stop to think about why they’re happening we’re just enjoying the moment.

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Understanding the vision in our life means that we need to understand the why’s and the why not’s  of the things that happen to us; this means that we need to ask ourselves some difficult attachment questions. It’s no secret that in order to lose weight and get healthy we need to ask ourselves questions about our motives in why we do the deeds that are detrimental to both our figure and our health. For me, it looks like this: What in my past has me connected to eating chocolate first thing in the morning? This goes all the way back to my grandfather. I am longing for those simpler times when I was cared for by my Dzadza (Polish for grandfather). I feel the need to continue in his legacy even though I know it’t not healthy. But in my case I’ve changed the way I have my chocolate in the morning and have a chocolate protein shake instead.

This was an easy vision to understand. I have a vision of looking and feeling a certain way so I needed to understand why I am constantly craving something that is tied me to my past. How many of us do this every day but don’t understand why we’re doing it? Now let’s dig a little deeper. I’m not a fan of setting goals, many people aren’t, but they’re also going nowhere, either. Goals help us achieve that which is worthwhile. So what’s my obsession about these little things called goals? While I’ve set goals in the past, some I accomplished and some I haven’t, in my mind I always focused on the unaccomplished goals instead of my successes. WHY? Because I sometimes I let the negative words of my mother overrun my mind instead of those positive words of my father. I accomplished many things in my life by having goals but those negative words are sometimes so difficult to silence.

I was sitting in a business training session a couple of months ago with other associates and we were going around the circle  stating our goals about where we want our business to be. When it was my turn, I stood up and said “I try not to make goals because when I do and I don’t accomplish them I am extremely depressed.” I shot myself in the foot that day. Because the only thing I’ve accomplished is nothing!

I now understand that I need to have a vision of where I want to go and I need to understand that vision. Understanding the vision for my life means that I need to write down my goals, read over my goals, give a vision to my goals. I need to map out where I want to go not just with the business but with my physical, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, environmental, and social health. Sometimes I think in pictures and sometimes I think in words. So I’ve decided to bring my vision to life with photos that I’ve started collecting, quotes about the life I want to have. I’ve printed them all out and they sit on the wall above my computer in my office. The quotes are on my bathroom mirror, my refrigerator, and my front door. 

You see if I surround myself with my vision, I’ll understand my vision, and I’ll become my vision.

Instead of letting life happen to you, bring your vision to life.

Understand it.

Taste it.

Feel it.

Become the vision.

DAY 1: ALWAYS BE READY

Always be ready to ask or answer questions. Changing your life means you need to know exactly what it is that needs changing. If peace is what you are after, learn to ask questions that lead to peace. If financial stability is your focus, ask the right questions to the right people and your life will change. If you’re on the path towards health, then ask these questions of yourself.

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2 QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TODAY

1. Where is my focus?

2. Is my pain of failing greater than my pain of building?

These two questions can be used in all aspects of life, whether you are looking for a lower number on the scale, lead a stress free life, or more money in your pocket.  These two questions can propel you forward into a new life in 28 days.

Be ready to answer other people’s questions, with confidence. Read the news, study career articles, read up on alternative health therapies, study into your faith. Be ready to give your testimonial, your story, your answers. People are always looking for answers for different life questions, keep a notebook of what’s working in your life so you can share what works for you and your health issues, for example.

You never know who’s life you could change. 

EXTRA TIME

EXTRA TIME

Every day people always want to add minutes to their day, or simply looking for quicker ways of doing some mundane thing so they can get on with the rest of their lives. I once asked my group of friends several questions regarding how they handle extra time for an assignment I had in one of my classes. The class was a time management class that was geared to how the handling of the time we have is also related to our many levels of health. There is no right or wrong answers to these questions, but all need to be asked as a precursor of how we handle our own time crunches and extra time, if we have any.

1. If you have an extra 5 minutes would you read your bible or say a prayer?

(SIDE NOTE: If I have 5 extra minutes, I usually have enough time to read my bible which I have on my phone, or in my kindle. It’s good to read something from our Creator on how to live life, then I say a little prayer to help me digest what I read and apply it to my life.)

2. If you arrived 10 minutes early to pick up your child from school, practice, etc would you play a game on your cell phone or get out of the car and do some stretches?

(SIDE NOTE: Any extra time I can spend working out is a step in the right direction in my book. Playing games on cells phones or computers is just another time waster, when you think of it in the time/value scenarios.)

3. When you have to wait in line at the grocery store, doctor’s office, restaurant, etc do you sit quietly and read the magazines or do you engage in conversations with the other waiters in line with you?

(SIDE NOTE: Engaging in conversations is the only way to make a connection to the world. If we would just stopped being so connected to our electronic devices and connect in real time we wouldn’t have so many lonely people in the world.)

4. You arrive 15 minutes early to an appointment, do you help people you seed in need or do you just sit in your vehicle waiting for the right time to make your appearance?

(SIDE NOTE: I arrived 20 minutes early to an interview one time, and saw a person trying to carry too many things for only two hands. So I offered my assistance and helped this lady to her office. It was one of the best things I could have done because this lady was the person I was interviewing with that day. You never know if the connection you make will take you to the next level.)

5. Would you rather spend an extra two hours a week learning something new or teaching what you know to someone else?

(SIDE NOTE: From personal experience I learn more from teaching other people because of the questions that my students will ask of me. It is interesting at how much I need to know about the subject that I am teaching about to answer any questions that people might have while we are in the learning environment. )

6. Envy, jealousy, gossiping, hating, holding grudges, negativity, etc are time wasters. How have these time wasters crept into your life?

(SIDE NOTE: Forgiving other people of what they do to me whether in haste or deliberately puts me in a better place both spiritually, physically, and emotionally. People do not wake up in the morning thinking about who they can cut off in traffic. Again people do not think about what comes out of their mouths, if they did half the things they say would never be said.)

7. For each purchase you make, whether it is the new electronic gadget you lust after or that candy bar that jumped into your shopping cart, do you calculate the time/money/value factor for your purchases? Do you realize that these purchases influence not only your expended time but also how you value your family time, and your life?

(SIDE NOTE: Every time my husband and I think we need an upgrade of electronic gadgets, we look at how much extra work we will have to do to afford it and we also look at how much we actually need it in how much value it will bring to our lives. Giving into a craving of a candy bar does not give much value to our lives in the long run, but calculating what the will power to say “No” to the craving has on our lives is greater than giving in to the craving.)

Answer these questions truthfully and you will begin to see what is important to you and what you might want to work for.

5 Compelling Questions About Your Children’s Future!

What are you feeding your children?

These days parents spend more time picking out new shoes and new clothing than they do in feeding their children. As a parent we mold and shape our children into what we think is best for them. We touch their futures by what we feed them as a child. If  children see their parents eating fresh produce they are more likely to enjoy the produce too. If we don’t want our children to spend their lives in doctor’s offices then we need to make major changes in their diets. Children follow in the foot steps of their parents. If  parents aren’t make conscious decisions about the food they eat, their children won’t either.

  • What kind of tomorrow’s do you want for your children?
  • How many days do you want your children to live?
  • What are your hopes for your children?
  • What example are you setting for them?
  • Do you want your children to be diseased?

The answers to these questions all hinge on what we are feeding them. If we take back the responsibility of being a parent, we can ensure the healthy futures for our children and change the health path for our family.