I’m Sorry

Ho’oponopono is a Hawaiian word representing the mantra “I’m sorry, Please Forgive Me, Thank You, I Love You. I find it’s easier to say these words to others, but to myself it’s extremely difficult. Maybe by practicing this we can obtain the health benefits that come from its practice of forgiveness and reconciliation.

Ho’oponopono literally means ‘to put to right; to put in order or shape, correct, revise, adjust, amend, regulate, arrange, rectify, tidy up, make orderly, or neat.’ It’s a practice of reconciliation, forgiveness, and cleansing our minds of wrong thoughts.

Wow, this sent my mind to my favorite childhood book, Peter Pan. This passage from J.M. Barrie in Peter Pan, “Mrs. Darling first heard of Peter when she was tidying up her children’s minds. It is the nightly custom of every good mother after her children are asleep to rummage in their minds and put things straight for the next morning, repacking into their proper places the many articles that have wandered during the day.”

Tidying up our minds before we go to bed helps us fall asleep easier and stay asleep. It’s common knowledge now that letting go of what has happened during the day is the best way to lay our heads down and get a deep sleep.

Putting things in their right place.

Personal Experience

From personal experience, I can tell you that I sleep better when can forgive others and myself instead of rehashing every word I spoke and overthinking every situation or decision I’ve made during the day. Plus, I feel better and more energetic when I let go of the reigns of holding on to everything. But I’m warning you now once you begin on this journey of ho’ponopono/forgiveness you’re going to have several questions arise when you do this…some of mine follow.

Why am I sorry?

What did I do to be sorry for?

Do I need forgiveness?

What did I do today where I need to be forgiven?

Am I also grateful for this forgiveness?

What is in the way of me loving myself?

Asking myself these questions became a nightly ritual because they came up on their own as I laid down all the baggage of my day into my journal. Letting go and tidying up my mind turned into a lifelong component never really going away but always helping me to get to the bottom of my life. When I stripped away everything that was holding me down, and forgave myself for not being that perfect daughter, that perfect friend, or perfect wife and mom I was able to work with myself and create the person I wanted to be. Each day is a new day to go after that person.

I’m sorry: Apologize for all the things you’ve done and words you’ve spoken that don’t go along with your vision.

Please Forgive Me: Forgive yourself for not accomplishing perfection and any other thing you’ve thought that isn’t moving you toward your vision.

Thank You: Being and living in gratitude helps you see all the blessings in your life and gives you a healing perspective.

I Love You: Loving yourself where you are is the only way to move forward in your health and life journey. Loving yourself needs to come first before you can love anyone else.

Be in Ho’oponopono on a daily basis. I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you will help you move forward on your health and live journey. Remember, it’s a daily task that takes us to our next word..

THANKSGIVING MOOD

I’ve been in that special Thanksgiving mood all month long this year, reminiscing of all the family Thanksgiving of the past and how they will never be the same ever again. With each passing year so much is learned and so much is forgotten. Memories of my mom’s special ravioli she made every Thanksgiving from scratch a couple of days before. We always had Italian food to go along with the traditional Thanksgiving fare.

Thanksgiving Mood

Thanksgiving is that time of year when families are getting together to share memories, make new ones, eat turkey, watch football, play games, and eat more turkey. But for thousands who don’t have family to spend the holiday with it can be rather depressing and lonely. Whether you are cut off from your family because of weather issues, distance, family conflict, or work doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate this day.

The Thanksgiving mood doesn’t have to elude you if you are alone, especially with the technology we have today. You can Skype with loved ones, call family,  volunteer your time to serve up Thanksgiving for the less fortunate. You can get together with your neighbors, coworkers, friends, or clients and have a Thanksgiving potluck. The Thanksgiving mood shouldn’t just be relegated to your only your blood family but can and should include those people who you know don’t have anyone to celebrate with.

Let’s try for one year to have a Thanksgiving mood that is filled with gratitude all year long, not for just one day or one month but for the entire year.