Think Do Succeed Repeat

Do you know where you want to go? Do you set goals for the new year and throughout the year? Success comes from how we think, goals we set, and actions we take.

Think Do Succeed Repeat

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Think

Better thinking is the result of better health and better health is the result of better thinking. It’s all connected. If you feel better you are able to think clearly. Think about where you want to go , who you want to be, what you want to do this year.

Set Goals

After you’ve given some thought to how you want 2019 to be better than last year, set some goals. These are your goals, they can be whatever you want. Remember we set D.U.M.B. Goals not smart ones.

D: Dream driven – Think about your dreams beyond your normal scope of reality. Think Big! Think Magical!

U: Uplifting – You are so thrilled about your dream you want to do it now! You’re connected to your dream.

M: Method Friendly – You can navigate your goal easily, and you’re able to identify the habits around the goal that make it possible!

B: Behavior Driven: You can tie your goals into your habits to make them permanent. This process internalizes your goals.

Do/Take Action

Take action on your goals. You can’t reach any goal unless you take action. This may be the most single important action you can take. You can think about your future, you can set goals, but if you don’t take action all will be for nothing. Do something each day that propels you closer to your goal.

Take Action it’s the only way to succeed at anything you want to accomplish.

Succeed

Once you succeed at accomplishing a goal, you can celebrate or you can repeat this method and ride the momentum of success. If we celebrate too early, we run the risk of a short burn and possibly fall back into our old ways. Remember it takes 66 not 21 days to create a new habit and make it a part of you.

Repeat

One your goal is accomplished, set another goal while this momentum is fresh in your mind and consciousness.

2018 Goal

One of my goals last year was to weigh 20 pounds less at the end of the year than when I started the year. Well, I surpassed that goal by 11 pounds. I lost 31 pounds last year. I am ecstatic and set myself another goal for 2019 and it’s based on the momentum of achieving that one goal.

2019 Goals

  • I will weigh 50 pounds less than what I weigh today.
  • I will have another published book or possibly two.

These are just two of my goals. I’ve broken these down into 12 smaller increments. This breakdown helps me make these goals habit forming. I’m looking forward to the continuation of this healthy journey.

Think Do Succeed Repeat

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2016 Priorities

Sensibility

Every year I get to hear all my friends and coworkers coming up with New Year’s Resolutions, it’s even crept into our schools. Teaching sensibility has gone out the window with common sense. Focusing on our priorities and goals instead of resolutions helps us focus on moving forward instead of only toward a date where you only do it for a short time and then by some magic you have permission to revert back to your old habits (the reason why you made the resolution in the first place.)

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Goals

The place to start is with goals. Now many of you know that I am not a goal setter because I get really hard on myself when I don’t reach my goals. It happens a lot to me. I spend all this time, working on setting up a goal, make my goal visual and even hang it up in several places around my home and even have it come up on my phone every morning. But what is the point when I ignore all my signals to focus on this goal?

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Now, I am not saying you shouldn’t make goals. I have found a way that helps me reach my goals without focusing on the individual goals, instead, I focus on the priorities to reach my goals. Priorities change each month, week, and day. Goals stay the same. For instance, one of my goals in 2016 is to pocket away $1,000 a month. I have chosen one goal in each of the seven realms of wellness (social, emotional, spiritual, environmental, occupational, intellectual, and physical).

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Priorities

For each goal I have chosen, I have written down some priorities for the month of January.

  • Go through all our monthly bills and see which areas we can cut back on or eliminate.
  • See where our money is going. That $5 a day Latte has been cut out and I bought a one cup Black & Decker coffee maker (uses regular coffee, no K-cups in this house) that comes with an insulated coffee mug. This will save $130 this month.
  • Get to a Comcast store and see if we can get rid of our cable and still keep the Xfinity service to watch TV on our devices because we hardly ever watch TV on our TV. This would save us about half of our monthly bill ($165)
  • Keep a pantry shelf filled with healthy Paleo snacks or ingredients to make Paleo snacks instead of heading to the store when the “I have a taste for” moments come up. Yesterday I made some Paleo Chocolates and only a small square of chocolate is necessary to satisfy my chocolate cravings. Money saved $32 a month just on chocolate (What can I say? I only buy Theo chocolates because it’s organic from bean to bar at $4 a bar and I buy two bars a week.)

Jan 1 – Jan 9 priorities for this goal. There is no reason why two people can’t eat a healthy Paleo diet on $400 month (especially when one of those people only eats two meals a day).

  • Plan my menu around the weekly grocery sales ads. (It’s difficult to do this right now, since the two stores I normally shop at, both within walking distance, are closed; one for bankruptcy the other for remodeling. But will try to do with a couple of other stores in the area.)
  • Plan social gatherings but not centered around food.
  • Go through closets, book shelves, and storage to see if I can sell more items I’m not using and haven’t used in a year. Take photos and sell the items. I bought a bedding ensemble last year, put it on the bed and didn’t like the pattern at all. Instead of sending it back to the maker, I stuck it in the back of my closet. Wow, that really helped! So now I’m selling it for half of what I paid for it ($75)

Knowing that each week’s priorities will change because of what I want to accomplish and the timing. For instance, at the end of January, the grocery store that is remodeling should be open again. It will be different with a new name and what it carries, but at least, we will have a store that is within walking distance again. When you live in a city, you expect to have this kind of amenity, so when it closed last year it really changed the way we shopped. We were forced to go to a store that was much more expensive, then the bottom fell out of that too and that store closed because of bankruptcy. This all meant that we needed to shop at yet another store that was more expensive than the first expensive store or cross our toll bridge at $5 a to shop in a different city.

Pick your goals for the year then break them down and focus on the priorities. Make your goals meaningful whether they are SMART, CLEAR,  or DUMB goals choose the system of goal setting that works for you. Then set your monthly, weekly, daily, hourly, and moment priorities. Think of your priorities as the gasoline that keeps you moving toward your goals.

Wishing you wellness in 2016!

 

What I Need, When I Needed it

Have you ever noticed that things come into your life at exactly the right moment, not five minutes later or a day ahead, but at the precise moment that you need and are ready to accept what is being given? I’ve been working on a lot of different projects since my last blog post in January. I’ve pushed writing aside several times to focus on my full-time job. But now every turn in the road seems to bring me back to writing, not to help others (though I’m glad my writing can fill that need), but for my own sanity. I am really thinking God gave me this talent of writing so I can figure things out in my own head and have a hard copy of my thoughts. When I write for the sake of collecting my thoughts in one spot, I can read them and think “Do I keep them or should I toss them aside?”

As with other parts of my life writing is a constant companion. I am constantly writing in my job, but it’s more sales letters and emails, nothing that has anything profound about living, wellness, or change. Frankly, when I work all day on a computer I don’t want to spend the rest of my day working on a computer.

So what makes now so different. Last week I watched a Brendon Burchard video on “How Not to Set Goals“. This video stressed the importance of D.U.M.B. goals. This one video changed my focus since I watched it. Why this? Why now?

Well, I was looking for something motivating to watch as I was going through a tough time at work. My boss is very left-brained. She lives in her spreadsheets. Now that’s not a bad thing but when you try to control a right-brained person with left-brained tools the right-brained person feels like a fish out of water and balks at every turn. I am that right-brained person. I think outside the box, whereas my boss is the left-brained person and needs to put everyone inside the box or she feels a loss of control. Needless to say, it’s a bit stressful for me sometimes. So when I stumbled upon this idea of setting D.U.M.B. goals it made sense to me and helped me in understanding why I never made the S.M.A.R.T. ones in the first place.

What’s a D.U.M.B. goal?

D: Dream Driven (Thinking way outside the box) Something that fires you up. Something you contribute to the world. Asking yourself at the end of your life “What things would make your life meaningful?”

U: Uplifting: Our words matter. Gaining something rather than losing something. I want to lose weight today is not uplifting. Make the goal attractive, compelling and important to you. Turn I want to lose weight today into I am going to feel so fit, vibrant and beautiful to the world that it exudes out of my skin.

M: Method Friendly: What practices can you surround this goal that make it achievable? Can you make a map around it, what processes can you bring to this goal that makes attaining it achievable easier. These practices, processes, or map helps us to live in the goal consistently. Some examples of a method would be to go to a Pilates class three times a week, three times a week you’ll do some sort of High-Intensity Training.  Same thing when it comes to eating. Add a new method to your plan: Drink some Rocket Coffee every morning, have a protein shake for lunch every day. Make these methods something you can repeat over and over and over (consistency).

B: Behavior driven: Triggers set up to make you do this. Examples: I am going to think these five things right before I go to the grocery store, I am going to only shop the outside aisles of the grocery store, Every time I waiting in line ask yourself “What am I focusing on and How do I feel?” If you want to be vibrant you have to feel vibrant.

I’ve been using this pattern all week long and I’ve been able to gain vibrancy and peace of mind. Creating my D.U.M.B. goals this week for work had me thinking not so much on what I wanted to accomplish for the week, like a task list, but more on the big picture of where I want my life to be. My work goals became D.U.M.B. goals too. Did I accomplish them yes, and it was so much easier than writing in a spreadsheet all the things I did for the day.

Want to make your life less stress filled? Make some D.U.M.B. goals. If you’re right brained like me, it’s the smart way to go.

Has nothing to do with this post, but I love this photo of myself and my new friend Leo.

Has nothing to do with this post, but I love this photo of myself and my new friend Leo.

WHEN THE WIND DIES DOWN

Life is always what we make it. If we are agitated all the time, life will look like a storm. If we control our spirit and live in peace and calm, life will follow suit. If we wake up with a different attitude every day, each day will be according to how we see it. I slept for two hours last night, the excitement of too many things happening all at the same time has me thinking in all different directions. One thing is certain, life is definitely changing, for the better. The storm clouds arrived last night in the midst of my insomnia and I realized that I am in control of the wind; whether I bow down to it or stand firm in my resolve never giving up on my passions. It’s this resolve that keeps me standing and smiling when the wind dies down.

When you’re going through the storm and you get up each day with the same resolve to make the most out of every day even though you know in the back of your mind that you didn’t accomplish nearly as much as you thought you could. These are the moments that make or break a person. Yes the winds come with every storm, but it’s how we perceive the wind, the cause of the wind, the storm, and the direction the storm is moving that will either shake our foundation or will be the lightening rod that prods us onto our goal.

When the wind dies down

People come into our lives and we never know why they are a part of it until we really get to know them or something tragic happens and they are gone forever. Some people inspire us to do good by their good examples and some by their bad examples. Just look at the entertainment industry and you’ll be able to see every kind of bad example that is showing the world how not to live. We’ve each had people in our lives that have shown us how and how not to live. But when you get right down to it, it’s these people who teach us how to live when the wind dies down that matters the most.

When the wind dies down, do we settle down into complacency and just live life in limbo or are we enjoying the fruits of our labor? If we are living life in limbo and just waiting for the next wind to come along and move us somewhere, then we haven’t learned what we should have from the last wind. But if we are continuing to strive and make a difference in our life while enjoying those much beloved fruits than we are truly understanding the meaning of hard work. With each gust of wind we are reminded of why we do what we do. If that gust of wind moves us back and forth easily then we don’t have a firm foundation of our why.  If you truly love what you do, you won’t let wind gusts (obnoxious, controlling people) stand in your way of living your best life.

When the wind dies down

UNDERSTANDING YOUR VISION

On my walk this morning I came to the conclusion that without understanding of why something happens in our lives we continue to let it keep happening. People are always asking that ill fated question, “WHY?”  “Why did this bad thing happen to me?” “Why did I get this disease?” “Why did my spouse leave me?”  And we are always given  the answer in yet another question, “WHY NOT?” The answers to these questions helps in understanding the vision we have for our entire life.

While many times we are told not to even think about the question of “Why?” something has happened or is happening in our lives. Because people think that we will have to endure even more bad things happening to us. Don’t you find it interesting that we only question when bad things are going on and not the good? When we’re going through the good times we never stop to think about why they’re happening we’re just enjoying the moment.

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Do you understand the vision for your life?

Understanding the vision in our life means that we need to understand the why’s and the why not’s  of the things that happen to us; this means that we need to ask ourselves some difficult attachment questions. It’s no secret that in order to lose weight and get healthy we need to ask ourselves questions about our motives in why we do the deeds that are detrimental to both our figure and our health. For me, it looks like this: What in my past has me connected to eating chocolate first thing in the morning? This goes all the way back to my grandfather. I am longing for those simpler times when I was cared for by my Dzadza (Polish for grandfather). I feel the need to continue in his legacy even though I know it’t not healthy. But in my case I’ve changed the way I have my chocolate in the morning and have a chocolate protein shake instead.

This was an easy vision to understand. I have a vision of looking and feeling a certain way so I needed to understand why I am constantly craving something that is tied me to my past. How many of us do this every day but don’t understand why we’re doing it? Now let’s dig a little deeper. I’m not a fan of setting goals, many people aren’t, but they’re also going nowhere, either. Goals help us achieve that which is worthwhile. So what’s my obsession about these little things called goals? While I’ve set goals in the past, some I accomplished and some I haven’t, in my mind I always focused on the unaccomplished goals instead of my successes. WHY? Because I sometimes I let the negative words of my mother overrun my mind instead of those positive words of my father. I accomplished many things in my life by having goals but those negative words are sometimes so difficult to silence.

I was sitting in a business training session a couple of months ago with other associates and we were going around the circle  stating our goals about where we want our business to be. When it was my turn, I stood up and said “I try not to make goals because when I do and I don’t accomplish them I am extremely depressed.” I shot myself in the foot that day. Because the only thing I’ve accomplished is nothing!

I now understand that I need to have a vision of where I want to go and I need to understand that vision. Understanding the vision for my life means that I need to write down my goals, read over my goals, give a vision to my goals. I need to map out where I want to go not just with the business but with my physical, spiritual, emotional, intellectual, environmental, and social health. Sometimes I think in pictures and sometimes I think in words. So I’ve decided to bring my vision to life with photos that I’ve started collecting, quotes about the life I want to have. I’ve printed them all out and they sit on the wall above my computer in my office. The quotes are on my bathroom mirror, my refrigerator, and my front door. 

You see if I surround myself with my vision, I’ll understand my vision, and I’ll become my vision.

Instead of letting life happen to you, bring your vision to life.

Understand it.

Taste it.

Feel it.

Become the vision.

DECLARATIONS / RESOLUTIONS / GOALS

So many people make resolutions at the beginning of each new year only to break them within days of making them. The many reasons stem from lack of focus, lack of motivation, and the newness wears off. Making a resolution often requires us to sit down and look at what we want to change about ourselves; most of the time we keep these resolutions to ourselves, which means we are not accountable for these resolutions.

This year instead of making a resolution, make a declaration. Write down what you are going to do and find someone who you know can keep you accountable and have that person or group of people sign it. A declaration page states what you will do. Once it is signed by you and the people who will keep you accountable it cannot be broken. You cannot decide one day “This is too hard, I’m going to quit.”

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A declaration page could be a list of your goals with action steps attached with time frames of when you will accomplish the goals. For instance my declaration page is broken down into 12 parts that represent 12 months. January’s health goal is to lose 16 pounds and another size.  My action steps are to work out 5 days a week for an hour a day, and eat a diet high in fiber, high in protein, low in Carbs  and low in any sugars. January’s business goal is to reach the next level in the ASEA compensation for me, which is Bronze. My action steps are to sign up at least 10 new associates, and help all my associates reach their next level.

Resolutions are promises we make to ourselves but when we declare our intentions with people who will keep us accountable we are will follow through.

HALF-WAY POINT PLUS 1

Day 13: Half-way point hit!

There is nothing better than knowing that I hit the half-way point a day earlier than I wanted to. It also astonished me that I lost weight while being in extreme pain and knowing that my back, and my hip was inflamed. That being said when I climbed on the scale on Saturday morning I thought for sure it was going to tell me that I had gained a couple of pounds but it didn’t. I lost even more weight. So if you are in pain but can still move, then move because that movement will help your body get rid of the inflammation that is causing your pain in the first place. It bothers me so much when people tell me that I should stop exercising when I am in physical pain. Many tell me that they would rather sit, and wait for the pain to go away then to work through the pain. Well sitting around is what causes people to have pain in the first place, because muscles atrophy and joints lose their mobility. Sitting for hours on end can shorten a persons life by 2 years. So you better believe that if I’m sitting down, a part of me is moving. Like if I sit and crochet, or sit on an exercise bike and watch the news.

Day 14: Another Pound Lost

It’s so nice to get on the scale and see the numbers gradually go down. Yesterday was one of those days that I had to weigh myself 3 times all in disbelief. I could not believe that I could lose 10 pounds in 14 days. I have never been able to do this before, but then I don’t think I’ve been this determined either.

Goal ahead

I have my goals in hand, in mind and now on my tongue. And every morning I say my goals out loud so they become what I think about more than the negative things in my life. I did a lot of purging yesterday: old files, desk drawers, magazines. I feel like I just want it all gone. There’s no reason to hold on to pounds I don’t want and things I don’t want. I then spent the rest of the day with my wonderful, loving husband.

Day 15: Morning Routine

Morning routine getting easier and easier. Stretch, ice, Pilates, stretch, ice. Then sometime this afternoon the exercise bike will feel my presence. I always like to break up my workouts; it gives me something to look forward to. Yes I know I am not normal. I love the feeling of working out. I am never tired after a workout anymore, my blood pressure doesn’t plummet anymore after I workout, my muscles aren’t fatigued anymore after I workout. They don’t even hurt the next day.

Why? It’s all because of ASEA. And I’m thankful for this amazing product, because without it I know what I would face after a workout. Without ASEA in my life, my workouts always ended up with my blood pressure plummeting so low that I would have cold shakes that would only be fixed if I took a nap. There’s no need for a nap when my cells are getting what they need.