I can already feel your questions, “What could these two totally different subjects have in common?” Fast food and narcissism can both kill you from your insides out. Why blog about it? Because the more people know what narcissism can do the better equipped people will be when trying to save their own lives.

We all know that fast food isn’t good for us. Eating fast food is like playing Russian Roulette, you never know when it’s going fire. Fast food damages our bodies from the inside out because it steals the calcium our hearts need to function, it robs our nerves, skin, hair, and nails of the B vitamins they need to help us live a synergistic life. Fast food looks really mouth watering on the outside but the inside is dead and nutritionally defunct!

Narcissism fast food

Narcissists are the same way. Their sugar-coating makes them look appealing on the outside, but when you peel back all the layers these people are dead inside. Narcissistic behaviors will deplete your emotions, your creativity, your peace, and your sanity. Narcissists never acknowledge their own emotions and will not acknowledge yours. These people are a wolves in sheep’s clothing. Narcissists control you just like fast food does; you become addicted to it.

Fast food leaves you wanting more because of the chemical mechanisms within the food that stimulate your body to crave more of the bad food. This is kind of what happens when you are in a relationship with a narcissist. You want to be in his or her presence but you don’t know why. When you have a conversation with  narcissists it’s always one-sided as they never let you get a word in, and they will never listen to your contribution. Narcissists are great pretenders and are often mistaken for people who have your best interest at heart. But the truth is narcissists have a hardened heart and cannot feel your pain because they are void of empathetic feelings. This same is true of fast food, it’s fake food. Fast food has no nutritional value.

We kill our bodies one bite at a time with every bite of fast food. We also kill our souls, one drop at a time with every narcissistic interaction.

Stop playing Russian Roulette with the food you eat and the people with whom you associate.

Your wellness depends on it.

Twenge, J. M. & Campbell, W. K. ( 2009). Living in the age of the narcissism epidemic. New York, NY: Free Press

Martinez-Lewi, L. (2008). Freeing yourself from the narcissist in your life. New York, NY: Penguin Group


Before I get on to the post I just want to apologize for my absence for the week. I’ve been dealing with a family issue and trying to some sense of all that has transpired. The missed days will be added to the last post of March.


I remember as a kid when I wanted something my parents could not afford they always told me to save up for it. Plus I also remember they too, saved up enough money to buy things like refrigerators, and other appliances, furniture, cars and even our house. We didn’t buy items on credit unless it was an emergency.


What constitutes an emergency? Natural disasters, accidents, health crises, and unemployment are emergencies. Snacks from vending machines, a craving for a new pair of shoes, the latest video game are not emergencies, but for many people it is the latter where they use their credit cards, and set up their own financial ruin. In today’s society using a credit card only for emergencies is often laughed at and ridiculed. We’ve gotten so used to using our credit cards that when someone says “I’m saving up for a trip” they don’t know what to make of it. I’ve gotten many interesting comments and looks of confusion when I say that.

Here are some ways a credit card should not be used, I’m sure if you think about all the ways you use your credit cards you’ll be able to find out what you can cut out.

  1. Groceries: (Have a budget, use cash and only use what you’ve allotted in your budget, it will make you shop frugally.)
  2. Fast Food: (Stop buying it all together and you’ll save even more money.)
  3. Snack machines: (Remember you pay interest on everything you buy on credit. So for that pack of chips you just bought, you are paying interest on it too. Another idea: bring your own snacks from home and bypass the the snack machine all together.)
  4. Convenient stores or snack shops: (If you’re getting gas, purchase the gas without going into the store. Food items at convenient stores are priced higher than your regular grocery store. Convenience costs more.)

Remember when stores had lay away plans? Some are bringing this saving up concept back. You put something on lay way whether it’s clothes, furniture or electronics. Then you make payments on it at least once a week, until you pay for it outright. You can do this on your own for a few months and you’ll be able to purchase whatever you want. For instance if you know you’re going to need a new stove, go look up the brand you want, research what features you want and need. Then start saving at least 10% of the price each week or pay period. This way you’ll be able to get the stove you want without owing any interest, or fear that if you don’t make a payment, it will be taken away from you.

I bought my $1,200 sofa with monthly payments where if I paid it off in 6 months I didn’t have to pay any interest (6 months same as cash). So I made it a point to pay it off in 3 months and kept saving the monthly payments for another 9 months then I went back to the furniture store and was able to buy the love seat, club chair and ottoman because I had enough money and they were on sale, unlike my sofa.

Saving up is also a good boost for your confidence especially when it’s your first time. As a child saving up for something helps children learn not only the value of money but the value of work to earn that money.

Let’s keep in mind that emergencies don’t happen everyday and they aren’t something you can plan for buy you can prepare yourself to be ready either by setting aside an emergency fund or relying on a credit card or both. But remember that credit card should only be used for emergencies…I’m sure that latte you purchased this morning has nothing to do with an emergency.

Redefine your emergencies and you’ll redefine your life.

Versatile Salad or Pinwheels

Basket of goodness

I like to mix as many raw vegetables as I can into my food. While I am not an advocate for only eating food in the raw, I do think that many foods are better tasting and better for us when we eat them raw.

Bowl of Organic Color

This Versatile Salad is a melange of vegetables that both my husband and I love.  It’s easy to chop them all up and keep them in the fridge for when I need something quick to make, or when it is just too hot to cook.

Confetti in a bowl

It isn’t such a daunting task when making food for a non-vegan and a vegan, it just takes preparation, and much planning. So when I chop all these vegetable up I take some out for myself.

Mixed with chicken and avocado bliss

All my salads look green or orange because after making mayo once, I could not get past the sliminess of it. Plus I can’t buy the vegan versions since I don’t eat any soy. So my next alternative is is use my own mixture of Avocado or Mango Bliss.

Spread on a tortilla, Rolled up and sliced

With a little more time and patience I took the Versatile Salad and transformed it into Versatile Pinwheels.