Changing the Legs of Our Relationships

How often do we think about food on a normal day? I used to think about eating, what I was going to make for dinner, for my husband’s lunch, and dessert all the time. I used to think about making sure our cupboards were overstocked with food items that I picked up really cheap because it was on sale and I had a coupon for it. Since I started the 50 Day Cleanse my thinking about food has changed. I now look at all that food I stocked up over the years as an anchor that was holding me down. This Cleanse is changing the legs of my relationships. 

I know “What on earth is she talking about?” Change the legs of a relationship?

Let’s take food, for instance, We all need to eat it to survive. We all have a relationship with food. We are making choices, thinking, eating, regretting, indulging, satisfying, giving in to our cravings for food. These are the legs in our relationship with food.

As someone who for most of her life has tried to lose weight or maintain weight loss to no avail, I have never tried to change these legs with this relationship. How many legs does my relationship have? It takes at least three legs to make a stool stand up. But my relationship to food has had at least seven legs at one time.

Food Relationship Legs

  • Craving
  • Rewarding
  • Thinking
  • Indulging
  • Satisfying
  • Dreaming
  • Stocking up
  • Buying
  • Eating

While at least four of these legs are still with me today. I need to eat. I need to buy food. I need, at times, to stock up. And in my case, I need to dream about recipes. But do I need the other ones? No. All my cravings for food are gone. I used to crave chocolate all the time. Now it hits me once in a while and I can talk myself out of it. I know that when a person craves chocolate, they are usually deficient in magnesium. So I take a couple magnesium tablets and the craving is gone.

Same with indulging. I just don’t do it anymore. The 50 Day Cleanse has given me the tools to listen to my body and give it what it needs instead of rewarding myself with a toxic, sugar laden treat. The first 5 days of this cleanse takes your mind off thinking about food all the time and helps you see where you need to change.

I used to spend hours weekly coming up with menus and grocery lists. While I still use a menu and grocery list, it no longer takes hours just about 10 minutes and I am ready to go. Eating raw alkaline meals and only once a day has dramatically cut our food bill down to almost nothing and we’re not eating only salads every day but they are yummy.

I’m also changing the legs on my other relationships as well during this time. Saving things to use someday is a leg I’ve used in rationalizing my skill of holding onto things I don’t need. Or how about this leg, “My kids might need/want it some day!” Ask the kids if they need or want whatever IT is. If they want IT and they’re old enough give it to them now or put it in a hope chest for them for when they move out. If they don’t want it, get rid of it. Family heirlooms are another leg. I’ve been going through my home with the eyes of my kids thinking about what they would keep and what they would toss after I’m gone. It’s eye opening. They probably don’t want the bottle collection with all the president’s faces you got from your mom. They’re not going to need or want 100 paper towel tubes or all the used gift wrap you’ve saved for the last ten years (which you never use anymore). Save the important things. Today is someday.  I am hoping that my children and grandchildren will want all the recipes I’ve conjured up over the years, like this one below.

Recipe of the Week

Taco Meat

Raw Sweet “Taco Meat” 

Always use organic

  • 1 sweet potato, shredded
  • 3 carrots, shredded
  • 1 mall red onion, shredded
  • 1 cup sunflower seeds, soaked four hours, drained well
  • 1 cup pumpkin seeds, soaked four hours, drained well
  • 1 Tablespoon cumin
  • 1 Tablespoon oregano
  • 1/2 teaspoon paprika
  • 1/2 teaspoon chili powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon coriander
  • 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon onion powder
  • 1/8 – 1/4 ground habanero pepper
  • 1/2 teaspoon Himalayan salt

Place the first five ingredients in a food processor and process until it looks like the texture of loose cooked ground meat.

Empty into a large bowl and add spices.

Serve in a wrap with mashed avocado or on a salad with an avocado dressing.

Enjoy

Makes about 6 cups.

 

 

 

SMALL CHANGES

Each day we are faced with the same tasks as we go about our routine in making our life the way we want it to be. Each day we are faced with the same choices as well. From what we want to eat, how we choose our clothing, and the conversations we have; it’s all a choice. We look at the difficult tasks of losing weight and getting healthy as too daunting to do anything. But it is the small changes we do each and every moment that matter the most.

Small Changes

I made a small change this week in my diet; I stopped eating bananas for breakfast and instead I’m eating two organic eggs (cooked anyway I want). This small change has made a big impact in my life, I don’t crave the sweet treats all day long. I am satisfied with the eggs, and my cup of Earl Grey tea. This small change has also affected my snacking throughout the day. I don’t feel the need to snack until mid-afternoon. Then I grab a handful of organic raw almonds, another small change I started. I’m no longer tethered to my cravings for sugar, or carbs.

Another small change that really helps is to stay positive. When we find ourselves in a negative, depressing mood we tend to binge on comfort foods. If we stay positive, it helps us in staying away from the foods that are keeping us from our desired health and wellness goals. You know what your comfort foods and offending foods are, the ones you run to when you’re depressed and mad at the world. If you have to, print out some positive quotes and tape them up around your home.

Every two hours while I work here at home, I set a timer that goes off and I turn on a YouTube 10 minute cardio video. This small change of doing 10 minutes of cardio every two hours helps me to get in 40 minutes of cardio a day. Plus for me it’s great because of my structural issues.

Other small changes that you can make:

  • Ordering smaller portions in restaurants: I usually order off the appetizer menu or I’ll ask for a box with my meal so I can take half the portion away.
  •  Bringing your own healthy snacks to movie theaters: My favorite is chopped apple and almonds
  • Scope out different activities that aren’t surrounded by food: have a healthy picnic and bring along a Frisbee, or a football, or go for a walk; Go on a hike, take a ceramics class with friends. Go to a clay-painting shop, a health seminar or a book reading. 
  • Park in the farthest spot from the door: I saw this yesterday on my walk. The lady looked like she was in her 70’s; she parked her car in the farthest spot away in the outdoor shopping mall I was at. She walked to a couple of stores, brought her bags out to her car and walked to other shops. I noticed she did this about 4 times. Then she got a cup of coffee and sat down at the table next to mine. We talked about her form of exercising. She said she hates shopping so she makes a game of it and tries to get in as much exercise in as she can when she has to shop.

Find some small changes that work for you.

In time these Small changes will add up in a whole new you!