LETTING GO

 

Each new school year brings parents to that awful feeling that they must endure. Letting go. Whether your children are entering school as a kindergartner or going off to college, this can be a time of anxiety for both parent and child. Below are the 10 ways I used to get through this difficult time that might help all of you moms and dads out there get through it too.

  • At the start of each new school year think about what you would also like to learn about, and do it. Not enough time or money to go back to school, no problem. The library and internet always have different ways to learn something without having to take formal classes. One year I learned all about faux painting, simple living, saving money, and even different cooking techniques.
  1. Make the first day of kindergarten a celebration, a milestone, an accomplishment. Be proud of your children as they enter this new stage. Remember if you are sad, they will be sad too.
  2. Start the first day of school off with your children’s favorite breakfast, make a good lunch for them to include a special card from you, to let them know that you are thinking about them.
  3. When they return from school, make them your focus. Ask them questions that require more than just “yes” and “no” answers.
  4. If the strain of being away from your children is too great, volunteer at your children’s school. I did this and it turned into a part-time job, which evolved into a full time job.
  5. Take the time they are in school to concentrate on tasks that are just too difficult to do with them home. For me that was grocery shopping, painting, organizing, or even reading a book of my choice.
  6. College aged children is another milestone, and another sad, growth  moment in a parent’s life. But it can be just as liberating for the parents as it is for the children if thought of as a natural progression of life.
  7. Sign up for college too. That’s what I did. As my sons went off to college, I went to college too. This way I had less time to feel sorry for myself.
  8. Join a book group, or create one yourself.
  9. Take in classes at the local art museums, or go to seminars offered at local health food stores. (These are things I did) Be in tune to your interests and go from there.
  10. Be ready to share what you are learning with you grown children, it will help them to realize that you are indeed letting go and letting them become adults instead of holding them back to be our little children.

While our sons will  always remain babies in my heart, they have grown into fine young men. All because I learned to let go, my way.

Ah Ha Moment

I finished my workout yesterday, cleaned up and sat down to read a book, when it dawned on me that in three months I will be a college graduate. Many people graduate college every year, so why am I so different? The dream of graduating college has been with me for 31 years. I remember it like yesterday when my friends went off to college, and I stayed behind working instead. I got married and raised a family. All the while knowing deep down inside that some day this dream would come true. I loved learning and each year when my sons entered a new school year, I would set my sights on learning something new too, that year. I learned how to simplify my life, do faux painting techniques,  all about different food allergies, how to use natural methods for health, and so many other things. I never grew tired of learning.

Four years ago when the education opportunity presented itself, and my husband was all for it, I began embarking my on my dream of having a college degree. Granted I started out pursuing an associate’s degree in medical office management but realized my heart was not in what I was studying. So I changed schools and focused on a Bachelor’s of Science degree in Health and Wellness. I have come to realize that we all need to find our passion, and do what we love to do. For me that is researching health news, sharing information on alternative health and wellness, and helping people learn to make better wellness choices.

I am living proof that even when we put our dreams on the back burner of life, they can still be accomplished if we are open to the possibilities and opportunities that come into our lives to change our circumstances. Join me as I share my passions of cooking, crafting, exercising, learning, laughing, loving and simple living.