Changing the Legs of Our Relationships

How often do we think about food on a normal day? I used to think about eating, what I was going to make for dinner, for my husband’s lunch, and dessert all the time. I used to think about making sure our cupboards were overstocked with food items that I picked up really cheap because it was on sale and I had a coupon for it. Since I started the 50 Day Cleanse my thinking about food has changed. I now look at all that food I stocked up over the years as an anchor that was holding me down. This Cleanse is changing the legs of my relationships. 

I know “What on earth is she talking about?” Change the legs of a relationship?

Let’s take food, for instance, We all need to eat it to survive. We all have a relationship with food. We are making choices, thinking, eating, regretting, indulging, satisfying, giving in to our cravings for food. These are the legs in our relationship with food.

As someone who for most of her life has tried to lose weight or maintain weight loss to no avail, I have never tried to change these legs with this relationship. How many legs does my relationship have? It takes at least three legs to make a stool stand up. But my relationship to food has had at least seven legs at one time.

Food Relationship Legs

  • Craving
  • Rewarding
  • Thinking
  • Indulging
  • Satisfying
  • Dreaming
  • Stocking up
  • Buying
  • Eating

While at least four of these legs are still with me today. I need to eat. I need to buy food. I need, at times, to stock up. And in my case, I need to dream about recipes. But do I need the other ones? No. All my cravings for food are gone. I used to crave chocolate all the time. Now it hits me once in a while and I can talk myself out of it. I know that when a person craves chocolate, they are usually deficient in magnesium. So I take a couple magnesium tablets and the craving is gone.

Same with indulging. I just don’t do it anymore. The 50 Day Cleanse has given me the tools to listen to my body and give it what it needs instead of rewarding myself with a toxic, sugar laden treat. The first 5 days of this cleanse takes your mind off thinking about food all the time and helps you see where you need to change.

I used to spend hours weekly coming up with menus and grocery lists. While I still use a menu and grocery list, it no longer takes hours just about 10 minutes and I am ready to go. Eating raw alkaline meals and only once a day has dramatically cut our food bill down to almost nothing and we’re not eating only salads every day but they are yummy.

I’m also changing the legs on my other relationships as well during this time. Saving things to use someday is a leg I’ve used in rationalizing my skill of holding onto things I don’t need. Or how about this leg, “My kids might need/want it some day!” Ask the kids if they need or want whatever IT is. If they want IT and they’re old enough give it to them now or put it in a hope chest for them for when they move out. If they don’t want it, get rid of it. Family heirlooms are another leg. I’ve been going through my home with the eyes of my kids thinking about what they would keep and what they would toss after I’m gone. It’s eye opening. They probably don’t want the bottle collection with all the president’s faces you got from your mom. They’re not going to need or want 100 paper towel tubes or all the used gift wrap you’ve saved for the last ten years (which you never use anymore). Save the important things. Today is someday.  I am hoping that my children and grandchildren will want all the recipes I’ve conjured up over the years, like this one below.

Recipe of the Week

Taco Meat

Raw Sweet “Taco Meat” 

Always use organic

  • 1 sweet potato, shredded
  • 3 carrots, shredded
  • 1 mall red onion, shredded
  • 1 cup sunflower seeds, soaked four hours, drained well
  • 1 cup pumpkin seeds, soaked four hours, drained well
  • 1 Tablespoon cumin
  • 1 Tablespoon oregano
  • 1/2 teaspoon paprika
  • 1/2 teaspoon chili powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon coriander
  • 1/2 teaspoon garlic powder
  • 1/4 teaspoon onion powder
  • 1/8 – 1/4 ground habanero pepper
  • 1/2 teaspoon Himalayan salt

Place the first five ingredients in a food processor and process until it looks like the texture of loose cooked ground meat.

Empty into a large bowl and add spices.

Serve in a wrap with mashed avocado or on a salad with an avocado dressing.

Enjoy

Makes about 6 cups.

 

 

 

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TIP #20: VICE QUITTING

At the beginning of this month, when I started this March into Money series of 31 tips. I decided that every tip I talked about I either have already implemented or would start to implement because it keeps me accountable to show the world that with patience and perseverance these simple tips can be done. Quitting a vice can save so much money each and every month but it can also lead to much better health in the long run.

Responsiblity

I quit a vice, yet kept a vice through changing how I have it. It’s no shame in saying, “Yes, I’m addicted to chocolate!” But gone are the candy bars, the cookies, and the unhealthy forms of them. Instead I add a bit of dark cocoa to my whey protein shake in the morning and I’m satisfied the rest of the day. Could be the reason why I’ve lost eight (8) pounds so far?

Another interesting note is that I’ve added more fat to my diet and am even eating sugar again, but I’m not eating foods that are fatty or are sugar laden. Because I control the amount and the kind of fat and sugar I use; I use less, eat healthier, stress less and eat cheaper.

There are other substantial money and health saving benefits from quitting a vice. Like smoking for instance: A pack of cigarettes cost more or less depending on where you live in the nation but the average is about $6. Do the math and if you smoke a pack a day that’s $42 a week, $168 a month, $2,016 a year! That’s just for the cigarettes, it doesn’t even include health issues that arise from smoking that much or time missed from work because of sickness. Imagine the cost of cancer, COPD, Emphysema, and the surgeries and medications to counteract this vice. Instead of a person who smokes working to support their family, their working to support their vice.

Here are some of the more popular vices that are stealing your money and your more importantly your health.

  • Soda (regular and diet)
  • Fast food
  • Alcohol
  • Speeding down the road
  • Junk food
  • Not wearing a seat belt
  • Prescription drugs
  • Processed food
  • Genetically modified food
  • Caffeine
  • Pornography
  • Facebook
  • Gambling
  • Video Games
  • Shopping
  • Credit cards
  • Work
  • Power and Control

Admitting that a problem exists with any of these vices is the first step in overcoming these vices. If you’re trying to save money and improve your health, then look at how connected you are to any of the vices listed above or whatever is in your life that is causing money, your family, your friends, your health, and your life to float away from you.

The choice is yours.

Only you can stop it.

Remember the motto for this blog.

“Tomorrow’s wellness reflects today’s choices!”

CHALLENGE STILL ON

So it has come to my attention that I will probably not be meeting my 18-pound weight loss challenge this month.

Lessons Leaned

What I have gained is knowing that while I did not meet the challenge, I’ve lost 10 pounds and dropped two dress sizes. I’ve found that I still love working out out with weights, and would rather lift than run any day.  I’ve also realized that while bread doesn’t call my name, I would rather just eat some of my flat-bread made from whole grain spelt flour, salt, and water, omitting the oil.  I will forever be tied to sugar in the form of fruit. Apples are my favorite but berries are a close second. So when I am tempted by eating an entire tray of cookies, I can opt for the fruit and my sugar cravings are satisfied. I’ve also learned that I can control my chocolate cravings by drinking my favorite tea: Guayaki’s Mate Chocolatte.

This challenge has taught me that I needed to make these changes for myself, not for a special occasion, a holiday, or for anyone else. I need to do this for me. It’s my choices everyday that make me who I am.

7 Days left in the challenge: Losing 4 more pounds.

Chocolate, Chocolate, Chocolate!

Just when my husband says he doesn’t want anymore sweets in the house, I get my greatest craving for CHOCOLATE. So what’s a girl to do when she wants her chocolate but can’t have any? Make some Decadent Carob Pudding.

Simple Ingredients

I was originally going to make this into ice cream by adding the coconut milk. But when I noticed how creamy it was and it’s taste, I decided it was going to be pudding instead. Because I just couldn’t wait for it to freeze!

Decadence awaiting my taste buds!

 

Decadent Carob Pudding

Serves 4

  • 1 cup cooked black beans (If using canned, rinsed & drained)
  • 1 organic large overripe banana
  • 1 organic ripe avocado
  • 1/4 cup organic local honey
  • 1 Tablespoon vanilla
  • 1/8 teaspoon sea salt
  • 1/4 cup carob powder or cocoa

Whirl together in a food process in order, and puree until smooth. Scoop into serving dishes and chill at least 2 hours. (My serving only lasted as long as it took me to take a photo of it!)

If you want to make ice cream from this mixture add 1 cup full fat coconut milk, mix thoroughly. Pour into 8-inch square glass baking dish. Freeze about 4 hours, break up and puree again, then refreeze.

Enjoy!