Love Equates Serving

The scattered mind. 
I can’t sleep, I’m not hungry, I’m not interested, I’m not me. Then who am I and what am I doing here? How did I get here? When did I let it all fall apart? I feel like Humpty Dumpty and I need to be put back together again. 
Life has been all about finding a cause and alternative therapies for my husband’s illness. My prayer life surrounds my words of asking God to make me have a servant’s heart. I want to love, serve, and help my husband in the manner that he needs without taking away his pride in doing things for himself. 
Make me a servant.
Serving each other is an act of love especially in the marriage relationship. When we look at it in this manner, we use our talents and gifts as loving offerings and expressions of love. 
An example of this. My husband needed some compression socks and knowing he didn’t have the time for such research, I took the bull by the horns and did the research on my own. Working with the criteria he gave me, I found exactly what he was looking for. He loves his new “Foot hugging socks” so much he went and ordered more. Everyday he thanks me for this little act of loving service and everyday I am thankful for having my capabilities. 
When we realize that our main responsibility in marriage is to serve one another in love our marriage takes on a whole new persona. 

10 loving ways to serve your mate

  1.  Take care of yourself. Don’t let the cares of this life bring you down. Pray, do your bible study, meditate, exercise, eat healthy. You can’t give what you don’t have. If you’re sick, it’s more difficult to serve. 
  2.  Ask your mate what he wants. I make my husband his two veggie and fruit smoothies every night before going to bed so he has them ready to go in the morning. This way I know he’s eaten properly and he doesn’t have to get up earlier than he does. (4 a.m. is early enough).
  3. Exercise together. Go for walks, bike rides, hikes etc. doing it together helps you encourage one another and brings you closer together. If you have children, bring them along or hire a sitter so you can have one-on-one time with each other.
  4. Turn off the TV and all your devices when you eat meals together. Give each other undivided attention. 
  5.  Use manners when talking to each other. Please, thank you, excuse me go much farther than demanding and condescending. 
  6. Encourage each other, especially when one of you is ill. Don’t let your mate’s illness stop your loving words of encouragement.
  7.  When our kids moved out of the house, we divided up the chores between us. If we can’t get to one of them, we let each other know and help each other out. 
  8. Relationships are a 100% commitment. Once we get this into our head and really understand it, we’re better able to clean a toilet, iron a shirt, or other mundane tasks. 
  9. Make allowances of our time for your mate. It only takes me 15 minutes to make two shakes for my husband. 15 minutes out of my day to say “I love you” and make sure he has a nutritious breakfast and lunch is a joy to me. 
  10. The first act of service we should do for our mates is to pray for them. Pray for their safety, their health, their wealth, their minds, their hearts, their visions, their works, their relationships, and whatever else you can think of that needs praying over. Spending time with one another will give you what you need to pray about. Sometimes my husband will tell me, “I’m having a problem with __________, can you pray about for me?” 

Love Equates Serving

Sleep Eludes Me

Listening to every sound around me…my husband snoring, the ticking clock, the melting snow dripping from the roof. My mind is everywhere but not where I want it to be. Unwinding after a long pain filled day is difficult but trying to unwind knowing the love of your life is in constant pain is a whole other beast. 

We never want to see the people we love in pain. 

We pray and beseech God to take away their pain and heal them. But the pain continues, the illness is still there. God does heal and He’s healed us in the past. I have no doubt He will heal yet again…It’s this patience thing I have a problem with. Waiting has always been difficult for me. 

Waiting in lines. 

Waiting in traffic.

Waiting in the doctor’s office. 

Waiting on God. 

Waiting and knowing that one day the healing will come all the while doing what we need to do. 

Our part in the healing process. Yes, praying. Yes, getting anointed. Yes, fasting. Yes, focusing on the joys. Yes, remembering all the miraculous healing God has done for us. Yes, continuing on with life. Yes, putting all our faith and belief in God to do what’s best for us. 

Acting on what we know. 

Faith and patience go hand-in-hand. You can’t have one without the other. 

But in the wee hours of the morning when the house is quiet, you’ll find me praying for God’s intervention in helping my husband be whole again!