Too many people identify with their illness that they become their illness and their illness becomes a part of who they are. In having a conversation about this very fact with someone who has many illnesses but refuses to let these illnesses stop or diminish who she is as a person, I gained some profound knowledge about why we try to use whatever “flavor of the month” sickness, illness, or disease that people lean on as their crutch to get through life instead of reaching for our dreams.
What is a crutch? Dictionary.com says
1. a crutch is a staff or support to assist a lame or infirm person in walking, now usually with a crosspiece at one end to fit under the armpit.
2. any of various devices resembling this in shape or use.
3. anything that serves as a temporary and often inappropriate support,supplement, or substitute; prop: He uses liquor as a psychological crutch.
Unless you have a real need to use crutches, i.e. broken leg, disease, missing limb, relying on something that is meant to be temporary stifles our growth. These crutches stop us from becoming the people we’re meant to be.
Like the statements:
- I’m to heavy to enjoy life!
- I have this (fill in the illness) so I can’t do what I want.
- I have a fear of (???) so I can’t go anywhere.
- I’m too old to do (?????)
Ever hear any of these? Ever say these? How many excuses do we have that strangle our lives and keep us in that comfy place always watching the world pass us by instead of living? Saying to ourselves or even out loud “If only I didn’t have _______________ I could do that.”
Crutches give us a false sense of stability, they give us peace of mind but it’s fleeting. We miss out on life. We miss out on what our lives could have been.
So how do we stop leaning on these crutches? How do we stop making excuses?
It’s easier than you think. It takes one small step, then another. These steps done repeatedly, ooh sounds like a habit
to me, helps us to become strong where the excuse has no power over our lives anymore.
Pick one crutch. For instance if being overweight is holding you back from doing something you’ve always wanted to do, but you don’t, go do it anyways. I always wanted to learn how to dance, but thought I was too heavy. I’m doing it anyways. And I’m losing weight in the process.
Let go of your fear for a day, and do whatever your fear told you, you couldn’t. If a day is too scary, try an hour, or 5 minutes and work up to a day. Work up to two days of no fear, keep the process going and you’ll be able to say “What fear?”
Yes, at first it is scary to go it alone, with no excuses or no crutches of your choice, but your life will be richer and fuller without them.
If you always have a crutch, you don’t learn anything! ~Ben Savage
Wishing you wellness for a new day!
The Crutch of An Excuse