The world says if you want to be happy you’ll have to lower your standards and your expectations of people and yourself. That is not the path to wellness. If you’ve spent time lowering your expectations and accepting only the minimal from the people around you and you’re still not happy then it’s time to turn it all around. If you raise your expectations people will rise to meet them and you’ll do the same thing.
It’s funny how the world tells you to be happy you need to lower your expectations of other people and of yourself. But when you lower your expectations you’re telling other people that you don’t really matter and they are given license to treat you any way they want to. Plus, when you lower the expectations in your own life you die a little to yourself. If you don’t matter to you, you won’t matter to other people.
How do you raise your expectations?
- Set goals for yourself. Achievable goals. With tasks attached to each goal. If you haven’t set goals in a while, think about what you have accomplished without any goals. Not much, huh? Now think about what you want to accomplish. These goals will help you see what you need to do to reach the next level.
- Get out of your comfort zone. If you have to burn your easy chair or give it to charity. You know what makes you uncomfortable. Are you uncomfortable speaking in front of large groups of people? Are you uncomfortable calling people and inviting them to look at your service? Are you uncomfortable being a peacemaker? Are you uncomfortable doing things on your own? When you get out of your comfort zone you raise the bar on your own life, you expand your horizons, and you raise your expectations.
- Challenge yourself to do something different. Greatness is learned by people who challenge themselves to do and be different than the crowd. If the crowd is all running in the same direction, turn around and go the other way. Yes it might feel like you’re going up stream and the people around you might even try to push you backward. But stand firm and move forward. The challenges can be as simple as challenging yourself to smile at least 10 times a day, if you’re not prone to smile. Every time you accomplish the little challenges you set for yourself in the direction of raising your expectations of what you can accomplish in your life.
Raise your expectations for yourself will help you see life from the top of the mountain instead of the foot hills at the bottom.