Each new school year brings parents to that awful feeling that they must endure. Letting go. Whether your children are entering school as a kindergartner or going off to college, this can be a time of anxiety for both parent and child. Below are the 10 ways I used to get through this difficult time that might help all of you moms and dads out there get through it too.
- At the start of each new school year think about what you would also like to learn about, and do it. Not enough time or money to go back to school, no problem. The library and internet always have different ways to learn something without having to take formal classes. One year I learned all about faux painting, simple living, saving money, and even different cooking techniques.
- Make the first day of kindergarten a celebration, a milestone, an accomplishment. Be proud of your children as they enter this new stage. Remember if you are sad, they will be sad too.
- Start the first day of school off with your children’s favorite breakfast, make a good lunch for them to include a special card from you, to let them know that you are thinking about them.
- When they return from school, make them your focus. Ask them questions that require more than just “yes” and “no” answers.
- If the strain of being away from your children is too great, volunteer at your children’s school. I did this and it turned into a part-time job, which evolved into a full time job.
- Take the time they are in school to concentrate on tasks that are just too difficult to do with them home. For me that was grocery shopping, painting, organizing, or even reading a book of my choice.
- College aged children is another milestone, and another sad, growth moment in a parent’s life. But it can be just as liberating for the parents as it is for the children if thought of as a natural progression of life.
- Sign up for college too. That’s what I did. As my sons went off to college, I went to college too. This way I had less time to feel sorry for myself.
- Join a book group, or create one yourself.
- Take in classes at the local art museums, or go to seminars offered at local health food stores. (These are things I did) Be in tune to your interests and go from there.
- Be ready to share what you are learning with you grown children, it will help them to realize that you are indeed letting go and letting them become adults instead of holding them back to be our little children.
While our sons will always remain babies in my heart, they have grown into fine young men. All because I learned to let go, my way.